can a jw marry a non jw?

by spirtos 15 Replies latest watchtower bible

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  found-my-way

  Be prepared to be coerced, nagged, begged into a bible study, be prepared for her to be viewed as bad association for marrying ''outside the Lord'',

  having a bible study will force you to make the decision to either get baptized or not,

  and if you decide to not get baptized, you will be labled as a willful non-believer, and not worthy of their association.

  basically, its a lose-lose situation...

  try and get her out of it. if at all possible. you are doing both yourselves a huge life saving favour by doing so.
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  Frequent_Fader_Miles

  As a fader who hasn't been DF'd or DA'd, technically I'm still a JW. I recently married a non JW. Even though I hadn't set foot into a Kingdom Hall (or been out in field service) in years, the elders still saw it fit to be up in my business making pronouncements. If your girlfriend is going to be very involved in the JW wonderland I doubt very much you'd be very happy in the relationship. You'll be pressured to convert, and should any children come along there's little hope of them having a normal childhood. There's also the possibility that she would be pressured to abandon you and her relationship with you altogether.
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  stillajwexelder

  Yes and I know afew instances where it has happened -but they are looked down on and if a "brother" no way would he get privileges
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  spirtos

  i read and got all your messages and apperciate the help. i want to reply to most of them but im still overhelmed.....im just taking all of this in.

  shes in arizona....maybe the jw's are different out there. i would imagine they are different everywhere. its we've been having problems for such a long time about soo many other topics..and we're back where we started from 4years ago..to this... ..and i've been doing deep thinking about god and religon and everything.

  am i wrong by them being different from place to place?
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  Fe2O3Girl

  am i wrong by them being different from place to place?

  Generally speaking, yes, you are wrong.

  There are sometimes subtle regional differences (some areas have stricter dress rules, some areas are more tolerant of wealthy lifestyles) but these tend to be on unwritten rules.

  The Jehovah's Witnesses are an extremely tightly controlled organization. The Watchtower literature which defines all their rules and beliefs is identical across the world. You will notice that we have posters here from across all of the USA and Canada, most of Europe and even some African countries. Our experiences of JW life are very similar. Anything written in a Watchtower publication applies everywhere.

  With regard to your situation, if you stay together you will have to accept always coming second to the JWs. And be aware that persuading her to stop attending meetings and associating with them is not the same as her not believing it anymore. A lot of people leave or are thrown out of the JWs but still believe it and are plagued by guilt and fear of being killed by God at Armegeddon.

  Good luck!

  Rachel
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  jgnat

  fe203girl answered your question about the consistency of the JW's from place to place. They take great pride in their unity, wich I would rather call uniformity.

  i've been doing deep thinking about god and religon and everything.

  That is very good. I think everyone should do some deep thinking on this subject, so they know their own mind before anyone tries to convince them otherwise.

  its we've been having problems for such a long time about soo many other topics..and we're back where we started from 4years ago..to this...

  Out of curiosity, if you have been having all sorts of problems over four years, why is she still a candidate for marriage?