it's hard on families, that stupid organization. My sisters and I are all out of the org. now, but don't really relate to each other. My middle sister rebelled first, got in lots of trouble and was df'd. So we lost our relationship with her. Then I faded and my other sister would still communicate with me, but not much. The third sister finally was df'd after her husband caused a huge huge scandal by sleeping with his children's elementary school teacher. Interesting how that works out, he commits adultery in a really scandalous way, is df'd and reinstated and is now the good guy. My sister was considered a bad person because she was angry and upset and felt betrayed. Eventually she moved on in life, started dating someone, and was told by the elders, who invaded her home one evening, to give the guy up or get df'd. So, she was df'd. But, because of all the years of separation we have never really reconnected. One sister is coming to visit me soon. I hope we connect in a good way.