Here's what I know that happened a few years ago with my elder uncle. I have my suspicions that I know what happened. I'll tell you the facts and tell me what you think happened. (excuse my past tense -- these people are still alive but since they won't talk to me, I find myself thinking of them in the past instead of the present)
Now keep in mind that this guy is an odd fellow. A little eccentric and he even has had a brain tumor and brain surgery twice. Also the kind of guy who would wear peach or pink and not think anything about it. He would wear cuff-links and tie tacks and rings. He watches the weather channel for hours on end. My aunt and uncle never had children because she was unable.
My uncle was deleted as elder. (no, not DFed) No one would talk about what happened. In fact, no one knew. My dad the elder knew but none of the rest of the family except my uncle's wife.
My uncle had cheated on my aunt in the past.
I asked why after he was deleted that my uncle wasn't forgiven and working to become and elder again since he was so good at giving talks. My dad said, "He will not be allowed to ever be an elder again."
My mom talked to my aunt about how my aunt thought it was so unfair that he couldn't ever become an elder again since the charges were only alligations and they never had proof.
One more thing -- I spent the night as a child with every aunt and uncle I had but never this one. They would take me out in service and take me shopping but never would let me spend the night. Their other neice never spent the night either.