Getting Married (page 3)

RichieRich

Congrats bro... I couldn't imagine doing it myself, but more power to you.

and good on you for making a good home for your baby.

sass_my_frass

Congratulations mate! I'm glad that you have this new happiness in your life.

zagor

are you still an active JW?

Best wishes, hope you two know what you are getting yourself into.

Perhaps you could live together and help each other through University study, ever thought of that? This is from someone who was four years older than you now when gotten married and soon realized he'd never make the same mistake again lol. But best of luck!

ex-nj-jw

Congratulations - I've been married for almost 21 years (same person).

Advise:

1. Always remember what first brought you two together

2. Never forget to say "I love you"

3. Never forget to show "that you love each other"

4. Keep talking, about everything, communication is the key!!!

5. When times are hard, and there will be many, revert back to 1 and 2

6. Remember the child you have together, well he/she was made from love and will need to see, hear and feel that same love forever!!

Good luck, and congrats again

free2think

Congrats Karl and Megan, that's great news.

KW13

wow! more replies i didn't notice but thats prolly cos i was in bed while they were posted.

again some really really nice words of kindness and advice both of which are appreciated

Zagor - i ain't an active dub mate no, megan hasn't ever been one either!

Riche, nice to see ya mate and thanks for the heads up

Good Girl or Bad Girl?

Congratulations, Karl and Megan! I'm very happy for both of you! Only you two know what is right for you, like others have said, marry for love and that's the only reason you need.

Communication can't be stressed enough! I thought I was the best communicator, but I'm a terrible listener. Which means I'm a terrible communicator! I work on this everyday because I love my partner and want to be with him for the rest of my life. He is not the best talker but is a great listener. We both work on our weaknesses because we care so deeply for each other and want this to work. Putting something so seemingly simple (and obvious) into practice has made us closer than ever and more in love than ever.

Best of Everything to You and Yours, Karl!!!

reneeisorym

I know that love is really important -- but I don't think people really understand what love means. I got married at 18 and divorced at 23. (I'm 25 now and getting married next month)

Love means you are both looking out for the other person's best interest. You do everything you can to make her happy and be sure that she is going the same for you. That means that you do the dishes because you know that she worked all day and is tired too. It means that she helps you with the yard work because she doesn't want the whole burden on you.

Never say the word divorce -- unless you seriously mean it.

Always talk and find out what she means by what she says. A good way to do this is to tell her what you understand her to mean by what she just said. Example: She says, "I want you to stay home saturday instead of going to the game." You say, "Did you mean that you do not like me going to football games?" and she says, "No, I wanted you to take me to our favorite restaurant this time." Communicating is not talking a lot -- communicating is finding out how the other person truely feels about stuff and what they are really thinking. And even if you have to talk 4 hours to settle things, do it. Its not a waste of time.

Ask her opinion on things before you do them. It doesn't mean you have to do everything she wants, but just by talking to her about it, she'll feel more valued.

Ask her now if when she gets upset if she wants you to follow her to hold her. Most men would rather have private time and women would rather be held when upset. (not all, most -- ask her)

Not every couple argues. Don't accept it as normal. Some couples do actually talk things out instead of fussing and that's the goal.

Try new and interesting things in bed. (buy Laura Corn's book "52 nights of great sex")

Your relationship will either get better over time or worse. Its up to you to either work on it or let it go down the hole.

YOU do the right thing even if she doesn't.

Compliment her and tell her you love her.

gumby

Karl, ya horny little bastard!

Congratulations little buddy

I'm gonna send you my nutsack kit so you'll look real nice for your bride on your honeymoon like you asked me to do too. I'd go with the low sheen luster look so's you won't blind the little gal and she can see what she's gettin if'n I was you....but I'll send both the" Shinny and Bright" along with the Low Gloss anyways. Be sure and buff it off after it dries to a haze or you'll need my nutshine stripper to get it off and you'll burn yourself like the last time you didn't listen to me and it blistered you.

Anyways, puttin all seriousness aside I wish you two the best. my daughter married at 15 and a half and she still happily married to the same guy 17 years later so don't let anyone tell you young marriages don't work out manytimes. If you two really love each other, you will make it through the tough parts.......and you WILL have some tough parts.....trust me

Love ya buddy

Gumby

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