Thank you all for your words of wisdom.........................
Well I started this very lunchtime...................I was taking him to his (worldly) friends house and I asked him if he had ever considered baptism and he answered "Yes and why?" with a coy sort of smile..............I did say we rarely talk about such matters.................anyway I said that I would not be keen on him getting baptised at an early age as I want him to be sure of matters for himself and to have checked things out for himself........I also asked him if his dad ever mentioned baptism to him and his answer was "No not really"..........so I have done the dastardly and opened that line of communication with him. It was only a brief conversation in a car journey of 10 minutes but it is a start. I know if he mentions it to his dad I am up for some serious dispute........but that is a encounter I am not to worried about.
I showed my (total non believer) husband this thread this morning and we had quite a discussion about it. He made me laugh, although he wouldnt adopt this tack, he said he would quite happily sit down for 4 days with him and convince him what bullshit the JW teachings are.....
Anyway thank you for the advice, the recommendations for for various reading material (books and other posters useful threads) and generally all of the support and wise words (even the firm ones Lovedubs).........
And Trevor I already said I was compliant in his attending meetings, it is as I have learnt more about the JW teachings and the falseness of them that I have become aware of the problems and potential problems for my son and our relationship........Just need to figure out how to steer his course into safe waters without totally alienating him or making him go on the defensive with me..........
Fortunately we have always had an open and honest relationship and on all matters other than religion we talk freely, so I am going to have to shift things a bit without making him uncomfortable.........
Thanks for all your help
Fifi