Sometimes I feel unwanted (page 3)

Junction-Guy

Thanks Gayle, I can kinda see your point. I dont need to lead, and I dont necessarily want to follow, but I do want to help.

Junction Guy from your posts I can see that you really care about helping out ex JWs and pursuing the case against the WTS, this is an admirable thing to do but you must also have a balance in life and also take care of your own interests and needs.

Have in mind that the ex JWs are not a monolithic uniform entity as the JWs are and unfortunately they are not organised or backed by big money as the WTS is. The key issue was for something to be organised but for whatever reasons this hasn't happened: There was not enough money to be put in? Not enough people dedicated to this cause? A paramount fear of anything organised? The disparate nature of the ex JWs with little common ground? Who knows why.

If you have a lot of money to live on and feel secure in the long term then you can pursue such a goal even as a hobby otherwise you must balance this against sorting out your own life and then promoting the ex JW cause as a secondary concern. Unfortunately we don't live in an angelic world.

mouthy

Well now my lad sounds to me like you have to come back to PA again...
I listened to you there....

So get on your bike mate & make reservations....

restrangled

JG,

After reading a number of your posts and especially this thread you are reminding me of my oldest son. His heart is always laid out for friends as well as strangers. Time and again he has been trampled on and disillusioned with responses to his help, time, money, and most of all his heart felt feelings.

What we continue to try to teach him is that he must have boundaries. He cannot give until it hurts hoping for acceptance or an anticipated response to his generosity whether it be work, time, feelings etc.

He must think about how far he can go without sacrificing his soul to others. He needs to draw a line and go no further without becoming bitter.

He cannot be wide open or totally closed up. It is a difficult place to find for those who want to please people around them.

He has to learn to take care of himself first and then he will be able to take care of or help others and know when enough is enough.

Take care JG and take care of yourself.

r

UnConfused

Dave - I've only read your post and not any replies. You are one of the few that I know on this board that is action and not all talk. In the world of volunteering there is the 80/20 rule. 20% of the people do 80% of the work. Your are a 20% guy.

I'll bet you feel like most teachers in this world.

I'd like to have you as a neighbor. I'd corrupt you into sipping beers on the porch with me.

Cheers

flipper

Junction Guy, my husband and I always like your posts, you contribute a great deal. I'm sorry things have fallen through for you, good luck with your project. Will look forward to your posts even if less frequent. All the best, flipper & mrflipper

jaguarbass

Junction Guy: I think you are expecting to much out of the ex JW world. Coming to this board is like mental masturbation. Something that people do rather than watch tv, or along with watching tv. Religion is like music. No one needs it. It is not a life essential, like food, clothing, shelter. The only reason any one ever got messed up with the witnesses is because they had to much time on their hands.

Having said that, I'll say this ,do like the watertower society. Create a need and fill it.

Good luck.

Junction-Guy

Lots of good posts, thank you all. Sorry Mouthy I cant make it to PA this fall. To Jaguarbass, I agree with you to a point on religion, but sometimes that is you have left in life, and when you finally lose that you have lost it all. I nearly lost my religion this past year, but thankfully I came to my senses. By the way I dont use the word religion much.

greendawn

Human beings have a spiritual dimension, needs and desires and religions are seeking to serve these though usually in a twisted and manipulative way, doing more harm than good. Even so man is unimaginable without that spiritual dimension to his existence and religion will always be there.

Madame Quixote

Sometimes it is difficult to let go of one's expectations, as restrangled seems to have suggested. Whatever my expectations were for coming to JW sites, they have changed. Sometimes I don't know why I come at all, but I can't stop doing it because I know that it helps me and if it helps someone else, that's wonderful - even more wonderful than helping myself.

I hope you find more satisfaction in your efforts over time and that you will continue to make friends here and outside of JWD.

You seem like a very caring person. If you were not, you wouldn't be putting so much effort in and you wouldn't be getting discouraged. Hang in there, JG. You do make a difference! Good luck with your new project.

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