I remember being called up for a talk after being inactive for two years. What are they thinking!!!!
Seems obvious that the "society" teaches loyality through duty, obligation, guilt, and lets not forget FEAR. So this is just a trigger. The loving brother that had this oversite (or not) was just doing the loving thing by reminding you of your duty. After all it might spark you into right behavior.
They still send me the KM.