Homeless person living behind my apartments...my heart hurts for him.

by FreedomFrog 22 Replies latest jw friends

  • FreedomFrog
    FreedomFrog

    We're basically in the quiet part of the suburbs. It's not run down much and it's concidered a nice neighborhood. I haven't seen any homeless people around here. They have all been in the city. I sneak over by the river off the beaten trail to allow myself to release my tears and let the river take my pain away for a while. This past Saturday I noticed a make shift tent. It was a bunch of branches lying on a tree leaning over like a shelter. Leaning against the branches was an old window. Under that was some old clothes. I thought to myself, "Man, that was smart using a window as a shelter". Around there was a sign of a small camp fire. From the looks of it, they/he are living there fishing for food.

    Now, I know that there are some homeless people that are on drugs and caused this to happen but I also know that there are good people that found themselves in a bad place. If my ex lost his job, I have no skills (at the moment) to keep my apartment. Sure I'll have a degree by next year, but what if he lost his job today? I don't have family or friends that I could depend on because of the JW crap that's going on. I would probably do exactly what he's doing. I'm not afraid of losing my place because I was taught how to survive in the "wild" by my grandfather if I had too. And the last thing I'd do would go to a "shelter" because there are way too many bad things that happen there as well as being told when and what to do. I don't think I could live the "shelter" way.

    I thought about writing on the rock (my son calls it "rock-a-chalk") with the $10. and a knitted blanket for this poor soul. My thoughts are on the homeless person constantly and I think it's because he's basically in my back yard. I think I've passed him several times on the trail. If it's the same person, he's a kind soul, minding his own business, looking for the best place to fish. He carries a big bag around with him. Not the kind of bag you see on TV with a NY scene on. It looked like a big brown "tote" bag. It had a small fishing pole sticking out of it. He looked beatened from the life experience. He was lost on the trail (easy to do since it's about 15 miles long with many "sideroads"). He asked me how to get back to the trail (the one that was close to my apartment). I told him, he wished me a good day and started wondering off. He looked like he was in his 60's. I just feel so bad for him.

  • VanillaMocha73
    VanillaMocha73

    Just don't leave him a WT and tract.... A blanket and maybe gift card to your local supermarket? We were just about homeless ourselves - you can believe the KH didn't help, but just having people show me how to work the food bank and how to find odd jobs I could do with baby in tow meant a lot and I will never forget...

  • hemp lover
    hemp lover

    I understand how you feel. I think most homeless people are that way due to an addiction, but I have a "there but for the grace of 'God' go I" moment when I see them. A lot of people these days are one or two catastrophes away from losing everything.

    I never hand over my cash because I have no desire to feed someone's addiction, but I do buy a meal on occasion. Take him some food now and then, even if you just drive through somewhere for a cheeseburger. He probably gets tired of fish. ;-)

  • Paralipomenon
    Paralipomenon

    He doesn't sound like your typical homeless. In fact, I rather envy his freedom.

  • FreedomFrog
    FreedomFrog
    A blanket and maybe gift card to your local supermarket?
    Take him some food now and then

    Those are good suggestions! Thanks!

    I never hand over my cash because I have no desire to feed someone's addiction

    Yes, that was my concern too.

    That just made me think of an idea...maybe leave some can goods (some of the yummy kinds :-) ) and a can opener for him. I really liked the card thing. Everyone needs a card now and again to build up spirits.

    A lot of people these days are one or two catastrophes away from losing everything.

    I'm one of them...so I know what these people feel...so much intense stress. In fact, my student loan is being threaten as we speak and I may not be able to continue on with my degree. My personal future is balancing by a thread. Top that off with IF ex loses his job, I'd be screwed. The one thing I have is a few friends that I may be able to rely on...but I don't know them as well as I have known my long time friends in the Dub religion. Lets just say (God forbidden) that I do end up losing my loan...and my ex loses his job ...those would be 2 catastophes that would do it. Sure, I could get a job at a fast food joint, but that wouldn't take care of an apt and 2 kids. I've done fast food places and they pay nothing.

    Fortunately for me, I can depend on support until I get enough skills to get a decent job. One thing about being a JW wife, you're not encouraged to start your own career because your "career" is to be preaching. So now close to 40 I'm trying to claw my way up the ladder. I guess that's why my heart is going out to that person. He may be in his situation due to nothing he's done "wrong"...just thats what the cards dealt him in his life.

  • FreedomFrog
    FreedomFrog
    In fact, I rather envy his freedom.

    lol, as I was sitting on the bank...I thought the SAME thing. Staying away from people, sleeping under a tent that I personally built, no bills to call you 4 times a day, eating from the land...the freedom. If I didn't have children I'd be tempted.

  • ButtLight
    ButtLight

    Well, I think I would personally help out if I were you. Blanket is nice, and the canned food and opener, great idea! Maybe some bottled water too. Good will for some clothes maybe? Something warm, thats inexpensive? An old tent you have laying around? Just some thoughts. (not saying to do them all lol)

  • FreedomFrog
    FreedomFrog
    Well, I think I would personally help out if I were you.

    Yeah, I think I will. If he's in a situation that he's not hating so much (being that he's got more freedom)...to have someone leave something "special" just for him may be good for his spirits no matter what his spirit is...after all, "fathers day is coming up" and I'm sure he doesn't get "gifts" that much.

  • jaguarbass
    jaguarbass

    It's nice that you are compasionate. Hopefully he is having an adventure. My brother and I have talked about getting on a all terrain motorcycle and following the sun for our retirements. Living in the woods, fishing, eating beans seeing the country staying one step ahead of the law.

    I have a wife who likes living in the city. We own our own home. But its an idea that runs thru my head from time to time. No bills.

    I would guess the fellow is down on his luck or an eccentric writter working on his novel.

  • MsMcDucket
    MsMcDucket

    Wouldn't it be, really, sad if he was an ex-JW?

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