Have You Ever Felt Intimidated To Go To A Funeral Because of Being An ExJw

minimus

Or did you ever feel uncomfortable going to a wedding or some other function, knowing that perhaps Witnesses would try to question you?

Finally-Free

I usually went to functions out of consideration for my ex. She could enjoy the fine association™ with the sisters™ while I racked my brain trying to invent an excuse to go home to my computer.

W

My ex sent me an e-mail saying she might very well go to a JW friend's dad's funeral at the KH this weekend. She's sick of feeling "intimidated" any longer. I responded with the sentiments that "it sux" knowing that certain persons may very well try to corner you and question you while going to a funeral.

anewme

Intimidated no, uninvited yes.

minimus

Many of our friends that are still Witnesses may need or want our support. Having an elder bug you while attempting to show concern is lousy.

Heather

intimadated no...nauseous yes....My grandma died recently and I had to be at the KH for her service....most the talk was about the new system not her and they mentioned surviving family members and my sis-n-law was mentions but not my husband.....what gives. Anyway I felt very uncofortable around my family but had no problems talking to anyone else. At my friends wedding...no problems....course it wasn't at the KH

minimus

The talk itself is not supposed to be a eulogy of any sort UNLESS one happens to be of the Governing Body.

144001

Intimidated no, bored as hell, yes. I hadn't been to a hall in well over a decade, and I quickly found myself reverting to old habits, like staring at my watch, wondering when the boring talk would end.

OnTheWayOut

did you ever feel uncomfortable going to a wedding or some other function, knowing that perhaps Witnesses would try to question you?

I feel that way now. I am newly inactive and missing meetings going on 2 months now.
The wife gets invitations for events this summer. We are both invited. It is a show of
friendship on the part of some of these, but it could be dangerous. It's not unconditional
friendship. I can quietly fade, and the elders might leave me alone, or I can mingle with
JW's (because the wife wants me to go) and the elders might see that as a reason they
need to confront me. I will get pressure to go, and the wife won't understand my resistance.

I have gone where the people have no idea what my status is, but many of these functions
don't allow that. I will read your thread and consider my options.

minimus

Personally, I avoided ALL events to be with the "friends". Eventually, if you don't keep popping on the radar, they'll accept that you too have faded.

Have You Ever Felt Intimidated To Go To A Funeral Because of Being An ExJw

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