I Feel so alone (page 3)

bluebell

Welcome aussie, sounds like you are having a real rough ride - you've invested over 2 years in this relationship only to find that his love is going to be conditional from now on. You need to have a serious think and then a serious talk. Are his family witnesses? It sounds like your parents and family will be there to support you through your problems.

deeskis

Hi Aussie

sorry this is happening to you..........but it's better it happens now, than six years/three children down the track. Yes you are being blackmailed...........don't be steamrollered........

you've already done some great homework with COC and other information.

Best wishes

D

dawg

Hi aussie, Nothing hurts worse than losing the ones you love... I know somewhat how you feel. I have been without the love of my life for 5 years now and it's not an expierence that you want to endure. As hard as this is know that what I'm saying is true... get away from this man, do it before others in your family get hurt even worse than you are hurting now-I'm talking kids you may have, and other family relations in marriages. My famiy isn't even speaking to me and what did I do? Told them the truth about the WT idiots. Get away before it's too late' look at his actions now and see how stupidly he's behaving? It's hard to reason with someone that refuses to read the facts isn't it? Be afraid, be very afraid of the mind control of this cult. Get away while you still have a heart left to break; mine's been ripped out so much I don't know if I have one left.

unique1

You don't know what you've got til its gone. I say give him CoC as a parting gift and say, I can't become a witness. I love you but if marriage depends on me being a witness, I can't do it. Should your feelings ever change about the witnesses we can discuss reconciliation. Here I got you a book. If you love me you will read it. I must go now. Don't answer phone calls from him for at least a week. It will take him that long to read the book. And don't speak to him if he hasn't read it. If he doesn't love you enough to read a simple book for you then you will know where you stand in his heart.

GOOD LUCK!!

nvrgnbk

You don't know what you've got til its gone. I say give him CoC as a parting gift and say, I can't become a witness. I love you but if marriage depends on me being a witness, I can't do it. Should your feelings ever change about the witnesses we can discuss reconciliation. Here I got you a book. If you love me you will read it. I must go now. Don't answer phone calls from him for at least a week. It will take him that long to read the book. And don't speak to him if he hasn't read it. If he doesn't love you enough to read a simple book for you then you will know where you stand in his heart.

Excellent plan unique1!

ex-nj-jw

Welcome to JWD Aussie,

My advise to you is to run as fast as you can from this person and the JW religion. Your life will be miserable!!! If you think you are sad and are crying now, what do you think the future will be like if you marry this person??

Take you family and friends advise if no one else and do not marry this man!!

nj

needproof

Welcome Aussie, welcome to our board.

Well, you are amongst friends now.

You are obviously a stronger person than your boyfriend for resisting the Watchtower Society and their false promises. Of course the Witnesses would say that you will grow to understand them, because once your mind becomes indoctrinated with all the images of fire coming out of the sky and people dying on Judgment day because they are not Jehovah's Witnesses, an in-built survival mechanism will click on inside you without you even knowing it. These cult leaders are not stupid. They have had many years of perfecting mind control, and they know that a frightened mind is a suggestible mind.

Did you say that your boyfriend was raised a Witness? If this is so, then those images would have been so deeply ingrained into his mind that he will constantly recall them for the rest of his life. Obviously it happens to older people, but those who were raised as Witnesses clearly feel this more strongly - and those who were not raised in it can often escape. Since I was raised a JW, although I have not been for a few years, even today I have nightmares about Armageddon.

The fact is that your boyfriend is so far down the line now and has lapped up all the excuses that Witnesses give out about people who oppose them. But you have obviously broken this mold before it has managed to set, so congratulations on that. If you want my advice Aussie, I know this sounds very harsh and you obviously love him, but you must leave him and get out while you can. The Witnesses make robots of people who are consumers and advertisers of their product, and this is why your boyfriend has changed. He has shown a clear disregard for you by giving you that ultimatum. If he really loved you, why would he do that to you? Ask yourself, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with this guy? Take it from me and the people on here, a divided household where one is a Witness and the other is not just paves the way for disaster. I have been there done that, seen it happen.

Listen to your parents. Your parents have raised you, they love you more than anybody else in this whole world. Without them, you would not be possible. They know you more than anyone else. It seems such a foreign concept, to ditch somebody you love since it seems at the moment that he is the only one. But your parents are showing you these dangers, and they are using their own experience because they want what is best for their daughter.

Please understand that these are not the words of somebody just intent on destroying future followers of the WT. I have just seen it before, I know your road and have been down it.

I am always here so PM me at any time if you so wish, and good luck in your life.

SnakesInTheTower

Welcome aussie! ...glad to have you on the forum.

It seems your BF has not exactly been a good little JW based on your comments

actually celebrated valentines day . ...... still going out and getting drunk.... he moved out of my house......

...doesnt sound like a JW to me....all of those things he could be disfellowshipped for (expelled) if he is baptized

....so maybe there is hope. but he needs to make a choice: YOU or the BORG (JW religion). I hope he chooses you.

See the thread started the other day by LindaLu (with comments to fiveangels.) http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/20/135144/1.ashx for some excellent posts from many here on the board regarding experiences similar to what you are going through.

For a minute, I thought this was deja vu all over again.....then realized the above thread....

Boy.....what the hell is this?.......You need to look up fiveangels, and have a heart to heart talk

Exactly passive suicide. It seem we have had a rash of this lately, where someone has a BF/GF and they are torn apart because of one being a JW the other not?

SnakesInTheTower (of the "single but not looking for a JW sister" Sheep Class)

Mum

Welcome to the forum, aussie.

Many of us here can relate to the way you feel and what you're going through. Falling in love with the wrong person is one of the most painful experiences in life.

I agree with my fellow posters who tell you to RUN! Unfortunately, this course of action will not be easy and your heart will be broken and will tell you to do what is contrary to your best interest. Think of it this way: If you remove the emotion, the caring for this person as an individual, would you even consider what he is asking you to do? Of course not. Making decisions on the basis of feelings or ties to someone else rarely works out for the best. If you should marry a JW, I hope you won't even think of having children because the chances are that they would suffer immeasurably.

Keep busy. Go out with friends and/or go places where you can meet other people. Take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself all the time you need to grieve and to heal. We will be here for you.

Regards,

SandraC

Sasha

Yes, we are all alone. Well, I am surely alone. Buyt, hey , I'm a loner

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