I ponder on time with friends..

by Sparkplug 21 Replies latest jw friends

  • Sparkplug
    Sparkplug

    I guess partially because I turn 37 in a few days, and tomorrow morning makes 10 years at my job. My son has one more year at home, my daughter is in a huge transition and my youngest just needs a lot, these years are all I get at this age...I feel I need to bother with things that will mean something. If you are not going to contribute to my life, be loyal, be upbuilding and just be a damn friend without all the secrets then just go. I don't need the crap. That is how I am feeling. Just pressed for time and begging for some "real" in people. Sometimes it feels as if people want the best bits and parts of you, but give the best they have to others. I am kind of tired of that. I also see my priorities straight. It lies in my kids and not in phoney people.

    I noticed at work, nobody is really happy for me, passing the ten year hurdle. And for my birthday they actually asked what day I want decorations up...I just felt like the way it was done was out of duty. Kind of like someone telling me they are throwing me a suprise party...when do I want it? It just really sucked. They don't really do that to others and at 5 and 10, 20 year anniversaries, they throw huge spread. I freaking have to plan my own if I want one. I just feel a huge sense of awareness as to where I fit in with a mess of people I know, be it at home or at work. I just need to let it go, walk away and focus on what matters.

    I keep saying that, and doing that, so it is a bit half resolve, relief, and letting go. I am there with most subjects, and getting there with others. You know?

  • Vernon Williams
    Vernon Williams

    Spark,

    There is a time to move on....

    During the intensity of exiting, I hooked up with a very interesting family while doing the remodel on my son's house so we could sell it (an eighteen month nightmare that lost money....) The hubby learned the basics of remodeling from me and can, now, tackle anything around his house. The wife gained a lot of experitse about managing a household from hints my wife left. (They are Roman Catholic....six kids and growing....) They let me spend a lot of time talking things out and challanging me on stupid comments I would make. It was a good mix...for a while.

    Then, differences in family values, politics, and the like started becomming manifest. The hubby cursed my wife over an issue on the phone. That was that. I have said hi to him once (he stopped while I was loading my son's bike on our jeep) in the last eight months and do not plan on stopping by again. It is the way of things.

    My family was good for them, they were good for me.

    I, still, pray for them time to time and hope the best for them and thiers.

    Wishing you well on your re-evaluation of the relationships that are worth the cost, hassle, and time that are the needed ingrediants of mutually beneficial relationships. The average person can handle about three friend ships, several work and neighbor buddies, and a host of folks like the ones on the board.

    Life is good.....

    V

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