Could You Still Love Her If She Were A Man? (page 2)

valkyrie

Richard - Great thread title! It sounds like the opening line to a country song's chorus !

You may get inner peace, but at the cost of living a lie or being alone.

If the transgendered person seeks the physical change because he/she honestly does not feel that his/her outward aspect [the body] accurately reflects the inner reality (psychologically, emotionally), then it would accurate to say that he/she has chosen to begin 'living the truth' of himself/herself.

One is most 'alone' or isolated when one feels that the true self is unknown in the midst of intimate associates.

-V

zack

While I respect the right of anyone to live his or her life as they please as long as they do not hurt others, I personally believe that once a man, always a man. Just because you cut your balls off doesn't make you female, just a guy in drag but with no balls.----- Not that there's anything wrong with that......

frankiespeakin

Lola, la la la lola, la la la lola,

That's a hard question, is she post op or pre op?

Loving someone don't happen over night, takes time, I'm not into same sex, or transgenders, so don't think love would get a chance to grow, but who's to say. Anyway my GF's nieghbor is a Tgirl pre-op, has beautiful head of hair, acts completely like a women, doctors say all her/his hormones are just like a women, even with out the operation looks like a beautiful women, I feel for her and hope onr day soon she can afford the cost of the operation, be happy and find the right guy and live happily ever after just like in the story books.

jaguarbass

I would be pretty upset with myself that I got so far as dating and couldnt tell in the sizing up phase.

I think the term is lust in the dating phase. If there is such a thing as love, that comes when all the lust is gone.

brunnhilde

What about if your partner/spouse isn't interested in a sex change but wants to dress like a woman? True, you might love the person, but this isn't something you bargain for when you first get married. After a while, even though you might understand and empathize, it can be completely overwhelming and undermining to your relationship. Some people make it, some people don't. I understand and support people's need to show externally who they feel they are internally, but it definitely comes with a price not just for the person but for the people in their life.

GentlyFeral

vitty,

Now I could see instantly these women were men ......................how the hell cant you tell?

Damfino; I only get it right about half the time.

I've actually been in this situation. I met her on an email list for bisexuals. You know how it is with online romances, you'll tumble for anyone who types cute. I went all out in trying to attract her attention. Found out she was pre-hormones, let alone pre-op, long before we met.

We went out together for six months before she dumped me for stomping all over her tenderest issues without even knowing what I was doing. It hurt like hell, but I ~~didn't~~ couldn't hold it against her.

everybody else: I really hope you'll google "transsexuality" before you say anything more about "lies" and "deception." Being forced to live as something you are not hurts like hell - as we all know from our dub days.

Making the change, and then never being allowed to put it behind you, isn't much better.

gentlyferal

bigdreaux

i have absolutely no problem with gays, or the gay lifestyle. i even have gay friends and go to gay bars. it doesn't bother me because, i am comfortable that i am straight. but, i could never be with someone that was my gender, even if mr. willy was snipped off. the mental thing would be impossible to get past. btw, guys, gay bars are awesome for picking up women. lol most feel if your willing to go to one, you must be cool. so, just a tip. no pun intended. lol

Brain Dead

Marge come here I want to feel your crotch !

Marge :

You want to feel my crotch why for heaven's sake ?

I want to see if your a man or not !

Marge :

Homer we've have been married for 10 years now or have you forgotten !

Well yesterday when I kissed you on the cheek I think I felt some stubble

Marge :

Thats just stupid............you aren't on the computer reading stupid things again, are you ?

Who me.........why No (click)

rolling rock

NO.

Flowerpetal

I remember an episode fron Star Trek: The Next Generation about Dr. Beverly falling madly in love with a man who had a symbiote (same species as Dax in Deep Space Nine). Everything was fine, until the host got deathly ill and they had to find a new one. Problem was, a new host was days away so Commander Riker volunteered to be the host until the new person came. To make a long story short, they got the new host, put the symbiote in and the person was a woman this time. She went to see Dr. Beverly, still in love with her. But because the host was a woman, Dr. Beverly couldn't return the feelings. Beverly couldn't love "him" because she was a woman now.

Could You Still Love Her If She Were A Man?

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