My Dad (page 2)

KW13

Thanks Gumby, your a special friend to me so the Dinger thing seemed a bit pointless .

I recieve your words and hugs with big open arms

Karl, a really great book is Toxic Parents, available on Amazon. It helped me identify myself and some issues I had to deal with. I'm sure it will help you and many others here understand their parents and, more importantly, themselves better!

Ian

juni

Hello Ian!

I also read that book.

For Karl ~~

I highly recommend it for helping you to understand WHAT your father did to you and how its AFFECT can be put in its rightful place so that you can move on.

Very informative book Karl. But it sounds like you have found a place for the past. That is great. If you ever need any input though in understanding toxic parenting and what it is, that particular book is a great source.

Juni ~~

delilah

(((((((((((((((((((((((( Karl )))))))))))))))))))))) I'm sorry that you grew up without the love and care of your natural father. It sounds like you were better off without him, though hon. You said,

Little Noah in a sense is going to benefit from the type of things we all went through because even though we've suffered we LEARN and we have all become stronger for it.

You have leaned to rise above your suffering, good on you mate! You are the better man here. Too many others don't and the cycle of abuse continues. Your father will grow up to be a very lonesome man, and someday, he may have lots of regrets. It's sad really.

You are already the father, your father, never was, and maybe never could be. Noah is a lucky little man....He will be raised in a loving environment, and is a WANTED baby by both of his parents. Best of wishes to you and Megan.

Vernon Williams

KW,

Life is a strange Journey.

One of the things I have learned is this: we can not make people into what we want them to be: family members included. I hope, at some point in the future, your Dad realizes he has a Son: a very special person and that he should have treated you as the special one you are. And, when that time comes, if it does...we can only hope....I hope you are able to let the past go and start at that point with him. You may only have a few days or years, and, yes, there will be scars, however, it might be worth the effort.

Wishing you and your Dad the best,

Yours in this Journey,

V

Quandry

Stepdad has almost earned it, he really pulled out the stops for the wedding and he's done loads to help the Baby situation better, he bought a pram today with Mum and he was dead excited showing us I'll bet it's been hard to be a stepdad, also. Sounds like he's tried to learn how, and cares for you and the baby. Although your biological dad is still stuck on himself and needs to learn a few lessons, it sounds like you do have some good people in your life. Hope you show them how much you appreciate them.

sass_my_frass

I agree that you and your precious new family are better off without your Dad. We don't actually owe them anything, you know? Keep him out of your life until he apologises for being an ass, and you can see that he no longer is.

I'm worried about this:

I've told my stepdad he can be Grandad to Baby Noah when he's born because he deserves from happyness.

What about Baby Noahs happiness? Are you going to protect him from what your stepdad did to you? Your child is your responsibility; your stepdad is his own responsibility.

My Dad