Reading non-JW books was a red flag when I was an active dub. It raised all kinds of suspicions. It didn't matter what the topic was. It was just the fact that you were reading something that wasn't approved by the society. The typical thought was that we have so much assigned from the society to read and instead of reading that you are reading something from the world with worldly themes and advice. I'm glad your mother accepted it, however.
My Wife Asked About My Mother-
by OnTheWayOut 16 Replies latest jw friends
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RollerDave
I've read enough of your posts to know you have a head on your shoulders and no vacancy between your ears.
Just keep leaving yourself open to answering any question they think they might be comfortable with getting an answer to, and being yourself without rubbing their noses in it and they will eventually sort themselves out.
It's good that your mother can refer back to what it was like being shunned, gives you a possible break.
Awesome choice in books BTW, relevant, powerful, purportedly non-religious, A stomach punch to the WTS mindset that says "who me?" with an innocent expression on it's face.... Oh you enjoyed that I bet.
Keep up the good work!
Roller
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OnTheWayOut
Thanks Dave,
The book was recommended by Blondie. I would prefer to get Mother to read
COMBATTING CULT MIND CONTROL but just the title would make her run.This book is a tame version of the same kind of control over our thinking.
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LeslieV
I think you are handling fading wonderfully well. You wife is afraid to ask you any questions because she is afraid of the answers. It isn't that those questions aren't asking you in her mind...giving voice to it she might be afraid of what she would have to do with the information. Sometimes ignorance is bliss....especially if you are a JW. Remember leaving is a process...everyone has to leave at their own speed. Good luck we are here for you.
Leslie
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OnTheWayOut
Thanks all for responses.
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Open mind
She tells her husband constantly that he should try harder to learn the truth.
With me, it is always within the text of the conversation, but the religion is not the bulk of the conversations with my mother.
If you complete your fade, (which it sounds like your 99% there already) and your Mom becomes fully aware of it, she'll end up targeting you just like she already targets her husband.
Unless, of course, she actually sees the light.
If you can handle the possible future hounding from her, go for it.
Open Mind
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OnTheWayOut
If you complete your fade, (which it sounds like your 99% there already) and your Mom becomes fully aware of it, she'll end up targeting you just like she already targets her husband.
I don't think so. I think she will go into denial and try to avoid facing the conflict of the possibility
that she is wrong. This might cause her to avoid religious conversations. Or you may be right
and she feels obligated to "save" me.Either way, it will cause her to think and have to face some possibilities. Maybe her son is right.
Maybe she needs to examine things for herself. Maybe the end isn't imminent. Maybe her husband
and son and other non-JW family will always be there for her, so she doesn't need the WTS.