Help !!!! I need some answers...shall I continue in the truth???

resthe

Greetings brothers and sisters out there !!! I was brought up in a Jehovah's Witness family and the loving care of many brothers and sisters till my young adult life. Unfortunately I was then lured into a Muslim man due to circumstances that brought me here. I am planning to return to the States this year to my family, hopefully with my 2 children whom I wish to bring up as witnesses. I then accidentally met a close friend who has been there for me since my divorce to my ex abusive husband. We have only been involved in deep thoughts and casual conversations..never on a physical level. During my 1 year away from my ex ..I have been reading the bible and the books and publications often given to me from sisters in my country..Not to mention the prayers and asking for guidance from the above. Now the problem is..

I need some answers or advice from the experienced brothers/sisters regarding my stand. I am too shy to go to the elders. Shall I continue and pursue my life and hopefully be part of the organization once again ?? Shall I sacrifice my faith for a man who thinks he loves me for what I am( I told him in the later part of our relationship that I was brought up as a witness) and would care and provide for me physically??

Deep down inside I know what the answer should be..but then I found some articles regarding what other thinks and knows about the origin of JW. I also read have questions in my head about some topics that I can't get the answers to..I know it's a sin and sad to know that I can be lured again to some different lifestyle but this man is honest, caring, respected, and much wiser than I am...Please help????

Thanks

Confused woman.

Mariusuk.

Hi

This site is primarily for people who have left or are leaving or considering leaving the organisation. There is a lot of helpful information on here to cover almost any question you could have. Maybe if you were a little more specific with which questions you wanted answering you could get them quicker

Welcome to the board by the way :-)

M

drew sagan

Welcome to the board!

You said:

Shall I sacrifice my faith for a man who thinks he loves me for what I am

It seems to me that in reading your post you are not quite sure what your faith clearly is. Taking time to think out your decisions is important. You never want to make decisions based on the heat of the moment, especially when losing family and friends are at stake.

If you haven't already, I would suggest you read 'Crisis of Conscience' by Ray Franz. It will help give you a clearer picture.

jwfacts

Welcome. If you have found love I would not let go of it too easily.

Regarding going back to 'the truth' you are in a position where you should take time and research before making any dramatic changes. You said you have looked at some of the Watchtower history and have your own questions. Do not dismiss these too easily but take the time to look deeper. You will quickly find that the Watchtower Society does not teach 'the truth'. For the sake of your children you should think carefully before getting them involved in indoctrination into a high control religion.

There is a lot of very valuable information contained on this site, so enjoy.

Flowerpetal

welcome resthe!

You are probably going to get a lot of different, and maybe angry answers to your questions as there are former and current JWs posting here, so be prepared!

I also read have questions in my head about some topics that I can't get the answers to..I know it's a sin and sad to know that I can be lured again to some different lifestyle but this man is honest, caring, respected, and much wiser than I am

Could you explain this statement a little better? What are the topics you need answers to and why do you think it's a sin to find the answers? And please if you already know deep down inside what the answer is to continue with this man or not, listen to YOU. I am not a man-hater by any means, but what is it about him that you think he is wiser than you? This is a question worth serious consideration.

dedpoet

Hi resthe, and welcome to the forum.

This site is mainly comprised of ex or inactive jws (I am disassociated),
and we don't believe that continuing to be a jw and continuing in the
"truth", whatever that is, are the same thing.

However, do stay with us, you will find that we are generally very welcoming
and friendly, despite most of us being what the watchtower would label as
apostates.

eclipse

welcome resthe,

I hope that you listen to your instincts.

If they are telling you something is wrong, SOMETHING IS WRONG.

Do alot of research.

It is NOT a SIN to ask questions, or to research your religion.

Religion is NOT worth you sacrificing love.

Go be with your love. Have a happy life. May you find a religion that isn't CONTROLLING like the watchtower is.

I know, I have been a JW my entire life.

I believed just as you believe.

I found out the truth, and now I am free. If you stay in the LIE, which is what the Witnesses are, you will always be under their control.

Find out all you can.

go to freeminds.com

jwfacts.com

You will learn things that will open your eyes about their bible, their doctrines, and the flip flops they have made.

You are being mislead.

nvrgnbk

Yes of course you should continue in the truth.

But first you have to find it! I'd rather have questions I can't answer, than answers I can't question.

Ex-elder, ex-bethelite, ex-pioneer,

Nvrgnbk

changeling

I'm a little concerned that you may be the type of person who gets taken adantage of by others. You seem very trusting and open to advice from strangers. You are also coming out of an abusive relashionship.

You do not say how you met your current love interest and just how well you know him. You say he is "wiser" than you and wants to care for you. I don't want to jump to conclusions, but sometimes controling types come accross as "knights in shinning armor" wanting to rescue a "damsel in distress".

Additionally, you were raised a witness (I was too) and that can be a sheltered way of life.

As others have posted, most of us here are no longer witnesses for one reason or another. We welcome everyone to this forum, but we don't want to mislead you.

All in all, I get the impression that what you need is to take a fresh look at life. You need to find a way to stand on your own and build some independance. Then you can analyze what is really going on around you as well as inside your head, only then will you will see your way clear. Don't be afraid to ask questions and do research. Find the truth about yourself and others.

I wish you all the best,

changeling

BFD

Welcome to the forum resthe. I don't know how long you've been away from the witnesses. I think it's good idea to do your research before heading back to the KH. Is your family still active? Have they shunned you for leaving to be with the muslim guy?

Of course you should do what you feel is right. The JW way is not right for me. Too many lies, too many flip flops, too many lives destroyed in thier wake. Research, research, research then decide for yourself.

As far as your new friend, take your time and follow your heart.

Good to have you here.

BFD

Help !!!! I need some answers...shall I continue in the truth???

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