Help !!!! I need some answers...shall I continue in the truth???

by resthe 30 Replies latest jw friends

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  Lady Liberty

  Dear Resthe,

  WELCOME to the forum. Sounds like you have alot on your plate. First before you decide either way, you should know that there is much you may not knowabout the orgaization that you are considering going back to. 99% of us that are on this forum were active witnesses at one time or another, most of us not that long ago. For many we had questions that didn't make sence and we wanted some answers. THe more we researched the more we were shocked to learn many disturbing things being hidden from us. Before you write off the man that is so dear to you, PLEASE read a little here on the forum. Here is my personal story as to how I began to have questions and what I discovered.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/109978/1916656/post.ashx#1916656

  Also here is a small list of other disturbing things that I made for myself, but decided to post here to help others.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/10/122192/1.ashx

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/10/122362/1.ashx

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/116002/1.ashx

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/122847/1.ashx

  I wish you well in your decision. You will find much love, support and plenty of information here. Please let us know how things are going.

  Sincerely,

  Lady Liberty

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  Hortensia

  It seems to me you are looking to be rescued - who is going to rescue you, this new love or the JWs? It would be better if you stand on your own two feet and run your own life. You have children to care for, they are more important than the WTBTS or some man who seems attractive to you because he can take care of you.
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  Gopher

  You "need some answers", you said. As James Thomas (another poster on here) might say, think calmly and spend time with yourself, the answers are inside you and you will find them. They are not found in an organization, because no organization knows the real you. Any organization (religious or otherwise) has the ideas of its founders or current leaders, but they don't know the real you.

  You asked "shall I continue in the truth"? YES, by all means. But that doesn't mean following an organization that says it has the truth (but keeps changing the boundaries of that truth whenever it feels like it). You must discover what is true about life, and what is true about your goals and values and how you will uphold those. Again, no man or organization can decide these for you.

  First think deeply, consider what is real and what is excess that is imposed on you by past teachings or by what others are trying to convince you of. Find your truth, then continue in THAT.
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  drew sagan

  I'd rather have questions I can't answer, than answers I can't question.

  A classic phrase that says it all!
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  SPAZnik

  Be giving your power to no man. Or man run organization. Just don't give your power away. Keep it. Take accountability for yourself rather than trying to pathetically dump responsibility onto a man or an organization of men. Stop playing the role of victim/martyr who is perpetually being "lured" one way or another. Make the best decisions you can with the information you have at hand, like everyone else on the freakin' planet has to do all day every day, and take action on those decisions.
  
  Don't make this into an "either/or" decision. There are at least two separate issues at hand. Split them up and take them each on individually.
  
  Are you looking for a guarantee about outcomes? There really are no guarantees in life and every decision you ever make whether you decide to be a witness or not will have it's pros and cons, it's joys and it's frustrations. This is the world we live in, this is life as we know it, whether by god's decree or by god's absence. You simply need to decide which eventualities you are willing to and capable of committing to. Then go do the best you can with whatever that is.
  
  Have you considered taking some training in decision-making or seeking counseling from a qualified life management professional?
  
  If you need someone to grant you permission to go be happy, well then, grant yourself that permission. :)
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  BluesBrother

  Welcome to the Forum ! - stay around and be informed and amused - between all of us we generally get some good answers to most things. But notice I did not say the answer..At the end of the day you have to decide on the answer that is right for you. There is is not usually one simple answer.

  We are pretty much agreed that the J W Organization does not hold the "Truth" - but do the reading, and see what your conclusion is .

  Good Luck...
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  AK - Jeff

  Ditto all the above. Welcome to the forum. May God bless your search for truth - you might be surprised where you find it.

  Jeff
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  mrsjones5

  I wonder if she's still here I've been waiting for her to reply all day
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  LeslieV

  First welcome and we are very glad that you are with us.

  If you have not had somekind of help in dealing with living with an abusive partner, then it is very easy to find another one. Please no matter what this person is saying, learn to take care of yourself. There is a big difference in needing a man, and wanting a man. If you are looking to anyone to "take care of you" you are putting yourself in a position to be abused again. That is what the JW religion does, it controls you no difference then the abusive mate you left. Good luck

  Leslie
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  bigdreaux

  nvrgnbck, that was actually insightful. i'm going to steal that. "i'd rather have questions i can't answer than answers i can't question"