by Frequent_Fader_Miles 13 Replies latest jw experiences
Long before I began my fade, there was a certain "sister" in the congo who married a non-JW man. She was very happily married despite of all the forecasts of "doom and gloom" among the "friends". How sad it was to hear her make the following comment in conversation - "Sometimes I feel badly about marrying an unbeliever, since other sisters may look at me and follow my example."
So what if they follow your example? I thought being happily married was a great thing!
FFM,
Maybe you could tell her to show everyone that marriage itself is a happy and fulfilling institution, and that the example of the good wife that she must obviously be will encourage others.
Always the guilt thing.........
I was in a miserable marriage to an elder for 17 years...should I carry that like a badge of honor? If given the opportunity, half the witnesses would divorce their "mate" if it wouldn't be considered an act of disobedience. Marrying an unbeliever is being disobedient since the Isrealites were told not to...blah blah blah...it boils down to 'if you can love HIM, you may love the rest of the human race, and since Jehover will be slaughtering them all you may come to resent this, so...I have also heard happily married , "unevenly yoked" sisters say, "I am happy now, but we will be separated at Armegeddon and I will pay for my disobedience then. This is a real sore point with me.
heaven forbid being happily married
I have also heard happily married , "unevenly yoked" sisters say, "I am happy now, but we will be separated at Armegeddon and I will pay for my disobedience then.
Jeez, how ridiculous! I'm also married to an "unbeliever", but he's a better husband than many "brothers" can ever hope to be! I don't feel the least bit guilty, and have no intentions of allowing anyone to make me feel guilty. What if Armageddon doesn't come within my lifetime, I would have lost the opportunity to have such a darling husband.
The only place I could find a woman that wasn't crazy was in the world Found her, married her and couldn't be happier.
My parents stayed together for years because of the truth - it sucks growing up in a family where the parents don't get along. I believe any witnesses married and are not happy are living a lie...
goodonya!
why live a lie
so true
Happy marriages these days are few and far between.
Why can't you have a happy marriage if you marry out the JWS.
I married a non believer best thing i did help the leaving so much easier.
My parents marriage was on the rocks for so many years till my mum finally left my dad.
Helen
My parents didn't split up until I was 32 years old. My mom loves being a dub, but my father quit many years earlier. They didn't get along, even before we became dubs. Joining the dubs made it worse because she wouldn't take the opportunities to leave him until she had scriptural grounds. It took all those years for him to hit her, then she went to the elders and got permission to leave. In the meantime, it was a long, miserable childhood.
So what if they follow your example? I thought being happily married was a great thing!
The only person I remember being genuinely happily married was a woman married to a "worldly man". With her you could just tell it showed through her, she never had to say anything about being happy, it was just really obvious. He treated her incredibly well too, you could tell he really loved her- he was such a nice guy I met him a time or two.
