Did The Watchtower Society Give You Your Personality?

by The wanderer 25 Replies latest jw friends

  • The wanderer
    The wanderer

    Did The Watchtower Society Give You Your Personality?

    A good friend of mine on the discussion board had this conversation
    with me a couple of times. After spending decades in the organization,
    he mentioned that he needed to get to know himself.

    Therefore, it raised a question in my mind about an individual’s personality.
    My personality was established before becoming a Jehovah’s Witness so
    the question is directed toward those raised in the organization.

    Did the Watchtower Society give you your personality?

    Respectfully,

    Richard

  • Gopher
    Gopher

    I would say no. They hindered my personality's full development. The personality was in there somewhere, and flashed through at times. But then it got buried again.

    I agree with that friend who talked about needing to get to know oneself. To be honest, I really didn't know myself because growing up in the organization you are told to be meek, yielding, always putting others ahead of yourself. Also, don't work on education or read self-improvement books, because their literature would allegedly take care of all that for you.

    It's taken awhile for me to allow myself to validate what I really feel, to allow it to come to the surface and express it, and to be real about it - "let the chips fall where they may" when dealing with others. It's still an ongoing process, but having the weight of the organization's foot off my neck has helped me grow and has been such a relief.

  • Terry
    Terry

    I was in my teens when I first attended Kingdom Hall meetings. My parents opposed. They weren't really church goers. They were bible-oriented without ever really reading it! My mom was captivated by Revelation and my Grandmother was a lapsed Catholic.

    I had "reverence" for the bible and a vague notion of God/Jesus et al.

    What the Watchtower Society gave me was a channel.

    I think of it as me being water and the Kingdom Hall was a kind of vessel. Water takes the shape of what it is in.

    I acquired a direction for my time and energy on a certain limited level which gave a focus to my mental energy.

    I had a magpie brain with interests in all sorts of things. The Watchtower kept categorizing everything into neat little packets of Good/Bad for me. I began to think of everything in ONE context only as filtered by Watchtower thinking.

    Think of it this way. If you pour any drink into a cup with salt in it, the drink will acquire a salty flavor.

    All my thoughts were salty with Watchtower persuasions.

    My personality took on a kind of veneer of Jehovah's Witness cookie-cutter prefabrication. You could pretty much predict how I would respond to anything because it was the "party line".

    There was a streak of the "real" me somewhere in all that.

    My individuation was a long incubation.

    I was becoming contrarian against all rational sense until I was cast out and then left dangling.

    It took ten years to not simply be an un-churched JW (or, an un Kingdom-halled one).

    A complete re-education program was necessary to erase what had been done to my mind.

    So, the answer to your question is, "Yes", the Watchtower Society gave me the personality I possessed until its influence was cut off.

    But, the "me" I never knew was at core waiting for discovery.

    I have become me a lot later than one ordinarily discovers one's self.

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee

    Did it give me my personality?

    No. If anything they squashed who I am in favor of what they wanted me to be - put on the NEW personailty.

    When I left I had a lot of work to do to figure out what I liked and what I didn't. Before everything was dictated or forbidden. Once out I had to discover many things about myself.

    Putting on the NEW personality

    NEW personality 2 - The armor

  • Illyrian
    Illyrian

    The part that they did influence was one of looking everything and everyone with suspicion for years after leaving. In fact it took rather shocking events in my life recently to just relax and allow people to come closer without me putting up protective buffer in front of me to avoid being hurt again.

  • lonelysheep
    lonelysheep

    I wasn't born in, and I feel they kept my old, weak personality/immaturity as solid as possible, not allowing my true self to grow. I began to evolve immediately after leaving them alone.

  • The wanderer
    The wanderer

    Dear Friends:

    Thank you all for such fine commentary. In
    particular you Terry because it me touched
    a little more deeply.

    "It took ten years to not simply be an un-churched JW (or, an un Kingdom-halled one).

    A complete re-education program was necessary to erase what had been done to my mind."-Terry

    Respectfully,

    Richard

  • garybuss
    garybuss

    With me, being raised by Witness fanatic parents and attending meetings and service work 5 days a week in a fanatic congregation, I was influenced by my environment and education and family values with a Witness point of view as much as it must be possible to be influenced.

    The only part of me not influenced by Witness dogma was my DNA.

    I wrote a counterpoint to Margaret Singer's article in 2001. The link is below:

    Establishing and maintaining the Pseudopersonality
    http://www.freeminds.org/buss/pseudopersonality.htm

  • jaguarbass
    jaguarbass

    I woud think since I was raised a witless from 1 years old and didnt escape till I was 31 that the witnoids are a part of my personality. I'll say they are the bad part of me.

  • eclipse
    eclipse

    Even though I was raised in it...and didnt leave until after being a jdub for some 30 years...I think it's safe to say, no...I am my own person.

    I was very sheltered as a child (hard to believe, I'm sure) so it took a while for me to come out of my shell, and start learning about me.

    When I did...it wasn't long before I was able to completely let go of the dub mind-chains.

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