When you were a dub, did you shun DF/DA'd people? (page 3)

Dragonlady76

I never shunned anyone, I found it liberating to acknowledge them, my mind was free to think on it's own and I knew that these folks were not bad people, everyone made mistakes I reasoned, some worse than others, so shunning some people for their mistakes and not others made no sense to me.

Marcel

when i was younger i shunned many. i didnt know why they are df or they da themselves. but i knew they were wrong regardless in what matter. and that was why i shunned them or while in service looked at them with disrespect. oh my god, i was so wrong about that. its so embarassing and cruel :/ a 16 year old looking at you with disrespect because of nothing. :/ no close friends though. my close friends wasnt caught doing wrong or repented good enough.

when i started seriously doubting and a close friend was dfed i didnt shun him completely. "hello" on the street, smile in the congregation, full contact on the internet. now hes reinstated. he never quit being a believer. hes not an ideal dub, but still a dub.

i wont ever shun someone else again. if armageddon really comes and god likes the dubs and not me, because i was too friendly to fellow humans who are weak in faith i can live with that (errrhh... no i can die with that).

VanillaMocha73

Some yes, and some no. We had a good friend who got a bit too much into partying and he was df'd. I did shun him and it felt BAD. The very time that he and his family could use some support we were not there for them. I always had a hard time with the concept. My best friend were df'd as well. Then, near the end, a friend's dad was df'd for working in a casino to provide for his family (he could not find other work) and they were walking in extreme heat all together from the bookstudy to their home (which was some distance away). I saw them and figured there was no earthly reason I should not offer them all a ride. They refused and I got censured by the elders for offering the ride. Made no sense to me.

WTWizard

At the height of my being a Witless, yes I had. There was one associate manager at the place I worked that I thought was disassociated, so I would avoid him. Turns out that he just never got baptized, and that was the end of that deal. At that point, it was common practice to treat them as if they had some plague.

Turns out that there have been a couple that got disfellowshipped that I shunned. Not because they were disfellowshipped, but because they were too controlling. One of those was the a*#hole that I studied with. He would always be seeking to control my life, and would have the strictest interpretation of everything in the Suffer Forever book as what I should be following. He also tried to get rid of all my music. So in his case, when he &$^#ed up and got disfellowshipped, it was more a case of good riddance. And all too soon he got reinstated (not once, but three times. When will he ever learn?).

Nowadays, I try to shun them. Not because of being an apostate, either. I know that if I don't avoid them, they are going to try to run my life. They will tell me that the rap music has to go. Then the computer (because of that evil Internet). Then the other CDs. Then the video games. Then the TV. Ultimately, they will try to manage my time so I can pioneer and put all my money into the Worldwide Pedophile Protection Fund. Thus, getting disfellowshipped would effectively cost me nothing aside the opportunity to waste their time and energy worrying about getting me back.

LennyinBluemont

When I was still a witness the person that studied with my husband & I called on the phone. By the way all of the people who studied with us (there was one couple, a single pioneer guy, & a married woman) got DF'd at one time or another. He had left early in our association with the borg & saw us get baptized. Anyway, his lover had just died of Aids so he was pretty upset but asked that I not hang up. I didn't. He had also lost his mother & father in death the year before. We talked about an hour & like the goodie goodie I was then I gave him an elders name to contact to come back. He did come back but died in about a year since he also had Aids. I miss him, he was a real hoot to talk with on the phone. Now I know why we got along so well. He was a great girlfriend. Anyway, if I would have shunned him & not talked like the few others that had hung up on him, I would have missed out on his friendship. He was looked at very closely by the congregation when he came back. I don't think they ever trusted him with others. Also everyone was afraid they would get Aids from him so many did not even want him back. Glad he didn't have to stay in long. I know he enjoyed his time out so at least he had his youth. I was a witness from age 26-57. I lost my youth to it. Now that I am out (not DF'd or DA'd) I have run into a few witnesses locally. Some have spoke some haven't. All of the ones I thought were friends shun us & as you know from my hubby's comments cut off ties with us in our business. We are better off without them.

Mrs.LennyinBluemont - Trixie

delilah

I never once, shunned anyone. I never agreed with that concept of shunning. I always thought it cruel and inhumane. I think it's a disgusting habit, used for fear and controlling the masses.

I know what it's like to be shunned, and it's not nice. It makes you feel like the lowest of pond scum, and that is NOT a way to treat people.

Missanna

i did for the most part but with my friends that left i talked to them in private and shunned them around other dubs... i believe that's what they call living a "double life". I'm ashamed i did that. its a horrible feeling and i wish i would have realized that before but i didn't.

When you were a dub, did you shun DF/DA'd people?