by Missanna 20 Replies latest jw experiences
Hey misanna,
I think if you continue to be strong, and don't get into shouting matches with them you will be fine. As you did on the phone, just say "I do not wish to discuss this with you at this time". Tell them that you just want to enjoy your nephew and family time and that you will work this all out in your own time.
Hang in the sweetie!
nj
Standing up to your parents is not easy no matter how old or young you are - I admire your bravery and courage.
It is sad to hear that your parents decided to cut off association with you and I do understand that this might be difficult; my advice if I may offer some, is that you should always keep the door open for them to return when they feel they can but not just as parents but as equals.
Its not always easy for parents to admit that they were wrong and whilst it is tempting to give them a taste of their own medicine (especially if they have been away for a number of years), you show you are the bigger more mature and intelligent person by accepting their apology (no matter how cryptically it is expressed).
I wish you well.
All my best wishes.
Gary
Wow!! U Go Gurl!! Sounds Like you are 'coming into your own'. AWESOME!!
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I'm impressed, too. You handled a difficult situation with grace and maturity. It's true, you can't live your life to please others. You have to live your life in a way that allows you to respect yourself. There's an old book, "Games People Play," which is really interesting. One of the games people play is to control others by not being pleased. The more they are disappointed in you, the harder you try to please them. It works really well and they have you completely controlled until you wake up and realize you don't have to please others. You end the game by not trying to please others.
mysterious- i know what you mean. that song has been one of my favorites for a while now. the lyrics speak volumes.
It doesn't make me sad anymore that my parents decided to cut me off from the family. If you've read my story you know i do not have a good relationship with them and it's not emotionally safe for me to be in contact with them. that's why i'm not scared anymore to be truthful with them. You can't lose what you never had. My brother on the other hand (the one with my nephew) he found out about it also and i called to make sure that this doesn't change me going up there to see my little nephew and he actually said "i won't tell sarah (his wife) and i don't see how i would change anything... that right there gave me so much hope that he may be questioning things. Either that or he really wants to see me either way it's an amazing thing that i didn't think possible. thank you all for your support.
And mrs. smith thank you for thinking about me. i go to bed thinking of so many of you. i feel like we're family.
You are a strong young woman. I had to laugh too when you mentioned your father told you about your husband being on the xjw boards! Too funny!
Sounds like you've discovered your self worth, and with it comes the knowledge you don't need anyones approval when you make decisions that affect your life. Hope you continue to grow!
****now i feel like i have a right to live my life the way i want to, to be who i want to, and to believe the way i want to. that's an amazing feeling****
WOOT! WOOT! for misanna! you should be proud of yourself...
you guys have NO IDEA how far missanna has come since i met her. her strength continues to amaze me. she is so modest, but, she's kicking ass at her job, and is coming into her own mentally, and spiritualy. i'm so proud of you baby.
awww babe stop it! you embarressing me infront of my friends. lol i do feel like i've come a long way. i mean a year from not i was so confused and scared and didn't know if i was doing something wrong and i guess since i've had this freedom and my mind is finally free to think everything is clearer now. i still worry about talking to my dad because if i do decide to have that conversation with him about why i don't believe in the "truth" anymore i'm not good at explaining things. my dad even though he's an abusive, miserable, hateful man he knows the bible very well and will try his damnest to prove me wrong... but on the other hand why do i have to explain anything to him?? if i don't does it seem like i'm hiding it or ashamed of it??
