Today my wife told me a teenage friend of mine is getting baptised this weekend and she wants me to come. Would it be hypocritical as a fader to attend?
a reproved mtsgrad
Am I allowed to see a friend get baptised following a year of my fading?
by mtsgrad 19 Replies latest jw friends
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Paralipomenon
There's no time limit on being supportive to your spouse.
That is, unless you think she's only using the baptism as an excuse to get you to attend the assembly. But if it really means something to her, go for her, not the organization. -
mtsgrad
My marriage is over so going for my wife would not make sense. Just feels strange supporting the Borg by attending.
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Dragonlady76
I don't think you should go, you and your wife are over and your fading, so I see no reason for you to go, just my .2 cents.
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bluesbreaker59
The short, simple, sweet answer is: no, no reason for it at all.
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steve2
Seriously, this may be a good opportunity for you to decide for yourself what to do - or not do. Even those of us who have been out a long time, need to remind ourselves about the health benefits of learning how to take more responsibility for problems that come our way. The organization teaches individuals to doubt their ability to make responsibile decisions without consulting "the literature". What rubbish!
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Bumble Bee
If this is a good friend of yours and it would mean alot for you to attend, then if you feel you can walk through those doors again, do it. Who cares if your a "fader" or not.
I don't think I could do it, so would sent a card or gift seperately, so they knew I was thinking about them. (My first instinct would be a condolence card j/k)
BB
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What-A-Coincidence
lol@a reproved mtsgrad
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eclipse
I told my sister before she got baptised to seriously think about the consequences if she did...
I tried my best, over the phone, to let her know that this was a high control religion with huge repercussions when you finally question the GB's claim of being spirit-directed.
She went ahead and got dunked.
She did not even tell me she was even getting baptised, she knew I would not of been happy for her, and she didn't want her apostate sister around
Get him a condolence card, lol, (good idea BB!) if you go, that way you are there for him, but also letting him know that you don't agree with him getting dunked.
Hopefully he will have a sense of humour about it.
edited to add: do what you feel is best for you and your friend....
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ex-nj-jw
Personally, I wouldn't go. For me it would be like say'n "good job" or "I'm happy for you". Instead I think I'd try to talk the person out of it, you know what he's/she's getting into, that person might not be fully aware!
But you have to do what you think is right for you.
nj