Why would you want to go and show support when someone is making the biggest mistake of their life????
Am I allowed to see a friend get baptised following a year of my fading?
by mtsgrad 19 Replies latest jw friends
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White Dove
I wonder how effective it would be to try to talk him out of it since being baptized opens up the org for them (males only) to be able to do everything without restrictions. The blinders are so strong just before, during, and just after a baptism. I remember how fanatical I was at mine. Maybe that was just me, but it could be true for others, as well.
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Frequent_Fader_Miles
Seeing that you've faded and you received the message through your wife ... are you sure the baptismal candidate really sent a message asking you to be there? Is there some reason she couldn't ask you herself?
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BizzyBee
Am I allowed to see a friend get baptised following a year of my fading?
I looked this up in the "Apostate Faders Handbook of Modern Etiquette."
There it was in Chapter 4, page 72, third paragraph: "Apostate faders are allowed to do whatever they f------g-well want."
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ex-nj-jw
LOL at BB,
You got that right and we don't have to answer to cult members!!
nj
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Nathan Natas
Do as thou wilt is the law.
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JWdaughter
Maybe you ought to write a simple letter saying why you can't support the baptism(into the org.) Showing up would give the wrong impression and express joy at her immersing herself into the cult and closing up her life. Don't do that to the kid. You are free to speak to, write to, love anyone you wish now that you are not longer one of 'them'. If you want to go, it is your choice, and it makes no never mind what they think you should be allowed. They won't forbid it, but why go and seemingly share in her decision-giving this young person your tacit approval?
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mtsgrad
There is nothing i can do to stop the dipping. It is a teenage girl from a single parent family. It's just that she wants me to come and in a weird way I am happy for her. I am so confused!
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Nathan Natas
If you have an opportunity to do so, let her know that you are her friend now and that you will ALWAYS be her friend, with no conditions. Perhaps that thought will be of comfort to her when she realizes, years from now, that she made a mistake and wonders who she can turn to. Then you'll be there for her once again.
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steve2
just that she wants me to come and in a weird way I am happy for her.
There's nothing wrong with being confused and it's great that you're aware of it. It sounds like you are doing your best to hold several different thoughts in your head at the same time. There's a part of you that wants your friend to be happy, and another part of you that is kind of touched that she wants you there. However, there also appears to be another part of you that knows more than your friend knows about the organization and this troubles you.
I don't think you can make your confusion to go away. But you can acknowledge the complexity of your thoughts on the matter but still decide for yourself what you will do (go to her baptism or stay away). Sorry, mtsgrad, but the decision on what you will do is in your hands alone.