I just need to vent :(

R.F.

I've been really deep into my emotions today. It just hit me out of no where seems like. It's mainly in reference to my feelings about my ex-fiancee.

I'm just trying to wrap my mind around as to how this person could turn out to be so cunning, so spiteful? You were the love of my life, my confidant, my best friend. How could you treat me the way she did at the time that I needed her the most? All I wanted to do was love you, make you feel special, make feel like the most special person in the world.......and she turns out like this. I asked her to be my wife and she answered with a joyful "YES!!!"........now she treated me as if that meant nothing. I was there for you in this most difficult of times in your life. I know you've been hurt so much in the past, and if I could I would've gone back and erase all that for you..........but now you try to hurt me like this. I cried when you cried, wept when you wept, felt hurt when you hurt, was happy when you were happy.

How could you slander me in the presence of the "brothers"? How could you tell so many lies about me and shortchange my feelings about you to these persons to make yourself look good when you know I would run around this globe for you if I could???

Why does it feel that all i've done for you was for nothing?? How could you dare treat me the way you've done?!?! What have I done to deserved this???

In so many ways now, i can understand why some are afraid to fall in love. But....I can't allow you to damage me for the rest of my life. Now I see why it was best that it ended........we didn't belong together.

I know i must move on, and if God wills it for me to find another love, im all welcome for it, but i just hope that for your sake that you change. You will be miserable person if you step on hearts as you have crushed mine.

Thanks for listening

R.F.

lola28

"The person you marry is not the same person you divorce" so said Doctor. Phil, I think he got it right. The person you are seeing now is who she really is and it's a good thing you found out now and got out before you actually ended up getting married and worse had children. Keep your chin up things will get better, they always do.

Lola

LeslieV

Sorry you have to go through this. Sounds like maybe you didn't know her as well as you thought you did. Some people really disappoint us when they are around others. Looks like to me she felt more loyality, or fear to speak the truth around the elders. Elders will do that to many people. She could also be very immature.

As difficult as this is, a divorce is worse. For your emotional stability I am glad she did it now, instead of after you were married. Or feel obligated to be married, and make your life miserable.

Vent away, we are here for you.

Leslie

Warlock

R.F.

I'm with Lola.

Better to know now, than 20 years from now.

You will find a lady someday who will appriciate all of your good qualities, and put up with your bad ones.

I know, because I found one years ago.

Warlock

free2think

(((((((((((R.F.)))))))))))))

I'm sorry you're hurting. Hang in there.

And pity the next person she next comes to.

nvrgnbk

You're a little young to know this song...so am I actually:

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=3077274583733833271&q=love+hurts&total=2831&start=0&num=10&so=0&type=search&plindex=0

ex-nj-jw

Oooh R.F.,

I'm sorry you are feeling so bad today! I'm glad that you found out before you married her, it may not seem like it now, but believe me you are much better off finding out before saying I DO!!

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((RF)))))))))))))))))))))))))

nj

Mum

What hurts more than being betrayed by someone you love, someone you believed loved you in return? It is one of life's most cruel experiences, but one that few escape.

It's okay, quite normal, to feel the way you do, R.F. It will take time to heal but you will be stronger and smarter for it.

Regards,

SandraC

free2think

You're a little young to know this song...so am I actually

Is it weird that i know that song?

Scully

Is it weird that i know that song?

I knew that song way back when it was still on the charts.

I wasn't allowed to buy the album (LP!!) because the local JWs felt that any band that called themselves Nazareth must be committing some kind of blasphemy or something.

It's featured on my iPod nowadays.

Oh, and R.F.... it may not feel this way today, or tomorrow or a week or a month from now, but she has done you a HUGE favour on several levels. Firstly, she's shown her true colours before the wedding and gave you an opportunity to put the brakes on the relationship. As I mentioned earlier, if she can't show you respect now, when she is supposed to have highly romantic feelings for you before the wedding, how can she possibly do so after the wedding? Secondly, she's unwittingly facilitating your desire to get out of congregation responsibilities. Thirdly, she's knowingly (but possibly unaware of your desire to do so) facilitating your fade by alienating you from other congregation members. You can claim to be so embarrassed by her gossip and slander that you can't bear to show your face at the Kingdom Hall. You can become so "discouraged" and "depressed" over how she has attempted to publicly embarrass you, that you miss meetings or at least pretend to go to other congregations until the dust settles.

Remember, the Chinese symbol for "crisis" is the same as the one for "opportunity". Use the situation to your advantage.

I just need to vent :(

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