When did kids get all the options? (page 2)

Sparkplug

They haven't suffered enough. Do we have the strength to make them suffer? Do we have the heart, to make them suffer? Not me.

Good observation. Perhaps when you know it can be sooo much worse you know to shut your mouth. But what it takes to make it worse, well do you really have the heart to go there. Your right I don't even on punishment. Even on words. Thats why when I think I am being way lenient and letting them breath, I am shocked when the other kids are so scared of me. WTF? I think to myself, as Ms Jones said, I would not have had a nose...something like that. Not a hair left in my head....

ex-nj-jw

Spark,

If it makes you feel any better, my son just turned 17, were we live you get your license at 16, but you have to go before the judge to get it. The judge hands it to the parent and tells the kid, this belongs to your parents, this is a priviledge and not a necessity. If they need they can take away you priviledge!

My son, had a moment of insanity and told my hubby, "forget you, I don't need to listen to this"!!! (those faces were mine, not hubby) Well after he re-inflated his lungs , we took his license for 6 months. He just got it back yesterday!!!

You have to follow through! I over hear them telling their friends all the time, my mom is crazy. I guess dad get's the title too now But all their friends always show us respect!

Hang in there, one day they are gonna have kids!

nj

Sparkplug

Well after he re-inflated his lungs , we took his license for 6 months. He just got it back yesterday!!!

OMgoodness. I so know that feeling! And count to 100 slowly. Do it twice if I must. lol

Hang in there, one day they are gonna have kids!

I don't know if I should laugh or cry over this. I am praying even if I don't so much believe in god...that is after THEY can support a child and not try to put it on me.

Elsewhere

I don't think anything has changed.

The "Good-ol-Days" never happened.

People have always been the same. Kids threw temper tantrums and parents abused prescription medications to deal with life.

The only difference is people are not white-washing their lives as mush as they used to.

John Doe

Amen elsewhere. The main difference is that the people who are parents now were kids then. ;-)

ex-nj-jw

Most of us were raised "old school", we turned up our noses, we huffed and puffed, we screamed, we wished they were dead.....but we did it with our faces in the pillow, because if mom or dad heard we were sure to get a woopin!!

Not abused, just disiplined!

nj

anewme

Well I am sure getting a taste of it too! I am currently renting a room in a big house with a teenager living in it. Well, she comes and goes and sometimes sleeps here.

Anyway, I am just shocked at what a COMPLETE SLOB she is! She is a very bright girl and fun to talk with when she is around, but she contributes NOTHING here! She breezes in and dumps her stuff in the kitchen, makes lunch and leaves her dishes and food for someone else to clean.

AND HER ROOM!!!!!!! AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!

I see her go into it to sleep, BUT WHERE DOES SHE SLEEP?????? THE BED IS COVERED IN CLOTHES AS IS THE FLOOR AND CLOSET!!!!

When I first moved here I cleaned her room and washed all her clothes and moldy towels on the floor. (Her parents are divorcing and I wanted to show her some support. I wrote her a note apologizing for the intrusion and that I meant it as an expression of love)
She thanked me genuinely.

But the next day the room was a total exploded mess of shoes, jeans towels and brushes.

Dont even get me started on what the upstairs bathroom looks like! Yikes!!!

As I say, I am in total shock. The mother admits she had to go to therapy to learn how to deal with her talented but slovenly daughter.
Apparently the therapist advised her to back off on the nagging and to rest assured that societal pressures will bear on the child in the future and she will self correct in the area of personal organization and cleanliness.

I like today's kids. I think its true that they are under a lot of pressure from the world that we did not have. But I think they will turn out alright in the end.

You who are parents need to try hard to make your interactions with your kids happy ones.
Remember time is fleeting.

lola28

When parents lost their backbone.

Lola

Finally-Free

I was raised 'old school'. I had to do chores around the house. I didn't get paid. I didn't get an "allowance". I got my food, clothing, and shelter. I ate what was put in front of me or I didn't eat. If I refused to eat I got a smack upside the head and sent to my room. If we were visiting someone for dinner, I better eat and like it. If the food was really bad, I'd excuse myself with a smile, go to the bathroom, and puke, but never let on that I didn't like something. Most of my Christmas and birthday presents were clothes - often long underwear. Friends were not allowed to come over and eat the food my parents worked for. If they were hungry they had to go home to eat. If I had a big mouth I got a whooping. I wasn't raised to expect fancy vacations. We'd go to a beach that was an hour away. Sometimes we'd stay there for an entire week, but usually we came home the same day.

W

PEC

The dress thing really hit home, for our wedding, both of Barbara's daughters, (the brides maids,) and each wanted a different color dress, we bought them matching dresses in the color that they wanted, then Barbara split the dresses down the center and added a floral pattern so they all matched, they found out on the wedding day. It was a Hawaiian wedding, so the floral thing worked out great. I will have to scan some of the pictures and post later.

Philip

When did kids get all the options?

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