Help needed.

by KW13 17 Replies latest jw friends

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  Quandry

  Well, that was a small reply, wasn't it? I accidentally hit the enter button.

  What I wanted to say was, give yourself a bit of time. Be patient. You are going through alot of upheaval right now, with a child on the way and adjusting to life outside of the WTS. We all have a hard time adjusting.

  Hopefully, soon, you can get a job, because that will help you to feel an accomplishment for yourself and your new family.

  In addition to the therapy, maybe go to the library and get some good books. Take walks with your wife. Get out and see flowers and birds. Can you take some classes to go forward with your education? Sometimes there are government aids available to go to school. Get involved in some worthwhile things to occupy your mind.

  You can do it. We're rooting for you.
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  ex-nj-jw

  Hey KW13,

  Scully nailed it! No need to say more.

  We are here if you need us, keep your head up!

  nj
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  Hortensia

  definitely counseling, it will help quite a bit. Definitely a job, although what you ought to do is get some job counseling too. Maybe take some aptitude tests so you can get or work toward a job that will be interesting and fulfilling. I don't know what the services are in the UK, but it sounds to me as though you would qualify here for help from the California Department of Rehabilitation, they help folks with vocational education and living expenses while getting the education. We've had quite a few students from the Dept. who are getting the training because of depression.
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  esw1966

  This is MY experience.

  Leaving the hall was good for me. I grew back to the happy person I had been before I was a jw. That was SO exciting and it felt good. But my search hadn't ended there.

  My girlfriend had me start my spiritual journey. We checked out churches. I found 2 that I like. One day I agreed with what they said and I was 'born again'.

  Honestly, my life changed from that week on. It was amazing what happened inside me. I became whole again! I understand it to be the holy spirit residing in you and changing you from the inside. I know it can sound pretty strange, but for me it has been the greatest thing to have ever happened to me and I nourish it every day so that I can get more and more of it! I crave it! I live for it!

  From that, I would say that no one is fully happy until they come into a relationship with God through Jesus. And when they do, their life's search is over and joy and love overwelms you and you see that as the only true way for people to be happy because happiness comes from God and not ourselves.

  Hope that helps. Hope it doesn't sound too wierd. It is my truth up to this point and I love it!

  Good luck!!!! I hope the best for you and your search for happiness! You have friends here!!! Write any time! [email protected]

  Cornwall Church Christ the King Mars Hill Church

  Ethan
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  KW13

  thanks for your advice everyone.

  Tomorrow i am in town, i am going to make an appointment with my doctor while i am there and follow the good advice i've recieved off my friends here.
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  slmdf

  KW -

  Our hearts are with you. My ex suffers from terrible depression. It causes her physical pain in the form of a nagging body ache. My advice would be similar to the others. Just don't give up and find a therapist to talk to. If that becomes too expensive, seek out a trusted friend to talk to. Spell out the support you need and what they can expect. Tell them how they can help you... because they won't know how. PLEASE.... don't be afraid to reach out for help. It's one of the strongest things a human can do. It can save you.

  We are here for you. You will be ok.
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  KW13

  Thank you

  Something actually nearly made me cry yesterday...strangest thing - a kid of 7, about the age i was when i went in give or take a year asked if i was alright before he went playing on the climbing frame at the restaurant me and megan were at (outside cos it was nice).

  Its strange, at that age kids have no idea of some of the things in this world and somehow a Society manages to throw them into confusion and scare them. As a child i was terrified of falling into the ground etc
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  nvrgnbk

  My love to you, brother.

  You'll get through this.

  You wont do it because you think you can.

  In fact you feel overwhelmed, like you can't do it.

  But you will.

  You'll do it for your wife and your baby.

  You're a good man.