A need to break the JWD habit

by OnTheWayOut 25 Replies latest jw friends

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut
    WHen do you eat man??

    I keep strange hours. I have long hours at work, but they are mostly long hours
    of availability with several lulls in the business. The problem really occurred that
    I let my "not-at-work" time become the same as the "at-work" time. I came on
    here. It really helped with the bitterness.

    I have some really close confidential family members who will be there for me,
    but being non-JW, they just don't understand like you guys do. Still, to me-
    fading should include fading from all activity that triggers the thinking about
    the cult, and it hasn't.

    I have looked at the statistics of posters. I doubt I was ever no.1 for more than
    an instant, but I am often in the top 10.

    I had a passion to write a book. I finished about 20-25 % of it. It was about JW's.
    The passion has since died, and I don't know if I even want to get it back.

    I think that anyone who regularly faces JW's in the family or is regularly shunned by
    family has the right to hold on to bitterness, but just because it's a right doesn't
    make it healthy. I would hate to ruin my health over JW issues.

  • WTWizard
    WTWizard

    For sure, being on this board is a lot less time intensive than having to picket a$$emblies, mail apostate tracts, and advertise apostate books in stores and on the radio or TV or newspapers. And if it gets just one person to "stumble" and avoid the even bigger waste of time with meeting/service, then it was a positive addiction. True, you spent a lot of time here, but you created a lot of value by helping others who were also on their way out or thinking of fading or not joining in the first place.

  • LongHairGal
    LongHairGal

    I agree with you on this one. This board is addicting but it is a wonderful thing that we are able to get all these things off our chest. For some, maybe it is good to move on. For others, they may lurk or post once in a while.

    LHG

  • sspo
    sspo

    You can do it.

    I did it for many weeks and it felt good to stop hearing negative things.

    Sad to say i'm hooked again.

  • middlechild
    middlechild

    I've never been a big poster. Posted when I really needed the help. Got great help! Got a little too wrapped up in becoming "anti-jw" for my own good. So I've chilled and will continue to on here. Glad to see you're moving on. You were literally trying to get out when I joined and I've enjoyed watching your progress and actually feel a little connection to you because of it. Always appreciated what you had to say and where it was coming from. Enjoy the rest of your summer and your life!!!

  • compound complex
    compound complex

    OTWO,

    Greetings! I could have written the very same words that you have. I had to get away for almost a week to attend to other matters. But I still had to check in and do some PMs.
    I've gotten through the denial, anger, bargaining and depression aspects of the grief cycle. Dealing now with the ins and outs of acceptance of the effect of lies I believed and promoted for 40 years, I can finally take a break from a similar addiction to "converse" with my JWD friends on a daily basis; however, I doubt I'll ever write a farewell letter.

    Never say never ....

    CoCo

  • What-A-Coincidence
    What-A-Coincidence

    trying to quit JWD? Good luck!

  • Open mind
    Open mind

    I'll miss you while you're out OTWO.

    I think JWD is like alchohol for me. If I'm gonna quit, it's gotta be 100%. (I do quit drinking for a month every now and then).

    But, just like the bottle, I think I'll always come back.

    (Off topic for a second: WAC! How'd you get ahold of my portrait? You could have at least asked B4 posting it. )

    Open Mind

  • OUTLAW
    OUTLAW

    Break the JWD Habit?..Good Luck!..LOL!!..Try,taking a break every once in a while..I do...OUTLAW

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    Okay, thanks all for your encouragement, agreement, disagreement, comments, whatever.

    This is it. I am ready to stop commenting. I will only READ for the next few days and stick
    to my goal, even extending one more day- I will stay away from any JW-related websites from
    Sunday thru Sunday. I will not even answer PM's starting now.

    Even after starting this thread, I kept posting on threads. I am sick, addicted. I gotta change
    my habit. PEACE OUT EVERYBODY. Talk about me all you want to.

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