Should I tell him how I feel or let it go? (page 2)

ex-nj-jw

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I don't have any advise for you on this one hun, sorry. That's such a tough call and your daughter unfortunately is caught in the middle!!

nj

"Wow, it hurts having it flaunted in my face that you've spent time with my daughter, my ex and his new wife, excluding me because of the religious control tactics of strange men. Are you TRYING to hurt me or are you just a witless ass?"

SPAZnik

So sorry you're hurting.

megsmomma

Thanks all for the replies.

I do appreciate being able to talk about this to people who know how it goes, and how messed up it is.

I am going to let it go since I vented it here and don't want my daughter paying for it in the future. I don't want to give them any ammunition.

Thanks everyone!

return visitor

I know that i am late in responding to this thread but i had to say just how sorry i am for you. when will they ever learn.

megsmomma

I agree RV.....and I know a-lot of us suffer from the results of our families following the ridiculous rules the society imposes.

FadingAway

hey megsmomma, I'm sorry you are going through this. I remember doing parking lot witnessing a few years back and was told by a guy who refused the mags that witnesses break up families. Of course I took offense especially since we were in middle of studying the "Secret to Family Happiness" book in the book studies. Reading experiences like yours solidifies the fact to me that witness agenda promotes unhealthy family environments especially with regards to shunning. That guy in the parking lot was right all along. Here is a great big hug from me

P.S. CHANGELING IS A WOLF!!!!!

SPAZnik

Glad you are feeling better.

By the way, do you visit your daughter as well at other times?

Quandry

I am glad that you vented here and then cooled down and decided not to call back and rage at them.

The hardest but most effective thing to do would be to send a brief card thanking them for paying attention to your daughter, and telling them or at least your mom, how much you love her. Then let it go and say nothing more.

As a mother yourself, you know that this will send arrows straight through her heart if she still has one. Don't you imagine shunning is hard for her? Of course it is, and when you don't respond with anger but love it demonstrates what an unloving act it is, and you can hold your head up because you have not acted in kind.

Like I said, it will be hard........

Hugs to you. Sorry you had to go through this.

Amber Rose

I just want to know what kind of woman want to fly up to spend time with her husband's ex-wife's mom and sisters!

Should I tell him how I feel or let it go?

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