Should I tell him how I feel or let it go? (page 3)

outnfree

To answer AmberRose's question, a good, little, Dubby wife who goes where her "head" asks her to go, and who believes that his daughter needs the good association of the JW relatives. And for (((((((((megsmomma))))))))). I am glad that posting helped you let it go. I do believe that is the wisest course. Although I do like the idea of the thank you card. out

Amber Rose

a good, little, Dubby wife who goes where her "head" asks her to go

Thank goodness I got out before I became one of those.

SPAZnik

Great thinking, Quandry. Why imitate them in their shunning behaviour.
"Be the change you wish to see in the world. - Ghandi"
:)

Stealth453

I feel for you. I can't really give you any advice, as I have been living for more than 25 years with a similar problem. You see, once my ex and I were divorced, she dub, me not, my parents, both hard-core dubs, moved my ex in with them, and took to calling her their "daughter". That started in 1981...she still lives there today.

Hang in there. The only way I can get through life..is to ignore the lot of them.

Peace.

SPAZnik

People's situations make me sad.

Hortensia

it's not like you're a drug dealer or hooker or dead beat - they are shunning you because you exercise freedom of thought - you don't agree with them about religion. They're not rational. I'm sorry you felt so bad, glad you decided to take the course that protects your daughter the most.

jaguarbass

I think what they did was import their granddaughter with her traveling entourage. Which is somewhat understandable wintnoid or not. Grandmothers love their grandchildren. At least some of them do. Those that do got it bad.

Quentin

I feel for you. I can't really give you any advice, as I have been living for more than 25 years with a similar problem. You see, once my ex and I were divorced, she dub, me not, my parents, both hard-core dubs, moved my ex in with them, and took to calling her their "daughter". That started in 1981...she still lives there today.

Bad enough what megsmomma deals with...(others as well)...but that's jacked...miss my dad, but glad he's dead, as far as having to deal with jw nonsense...he would drop by when I wasen't home and witness to my daughter...unknown to him she never accepted his shunning of me...never got over it either...she loved her grandfather very much, enjoyed the time spent, while he counted time...

jw's are so twisted they don't get it about shunning...people on the outside don't accept it, especialy when it's up close and personel...

Big bone crushing hugs to all who deal with this jackass theology...

flipper

Megsmomma, Mr. Flipper here. I think Worldly Andres advice is good. Just respectfully but firmly have a talk with them and spell it out. The longer I've been away from this cult, the more I'm finding out that honesty is the best policy. It can be done tactfully but firmly. Sounds weird but true. I have been firmer with my family of late, explaining to my aged jw mom that I highly disagree with my judgemental older brother who is an elder but refuses me to come to his home or gilead graduate sister who condemns me to hell. I'm just a fader, not dfed, so I told my mom they should not treat me that way. You will gain this confidence, the longer you've been out P.S. Megsmomma you have a right to be with your kids seeing their grandparents!

Who are you?

Hey megs spectacular mom,

My JW MIL actually came over to my house after shunning my wife (her daughter) the morning that my wife took off on a trip, and actually thought that we would receive her with open arms and condone the shunning. Different but similar.

I'm not a big advocate of silence in this matter, but I also think that when you break out the heavy artillary, you need to be strategic in the manner in which you deal with the step-poser. There will be a better time down the road to bust his chops. I don't think this is the one. The sneak attacks are not the ones to respond to. Bide your time. Weave your web. Then make him rue the day he met you. Good luck whatever you decide to do.

Should I tell him how I feel or let it go?

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