I remember the mindset I was in when disfellowshipped. At the time, I still believed it was The Truth, and I was confident I'd be reinstated in no time, attending virtually all meetings. But I do remember thinking...
"Okay, sure, I'll go through this shunning thing. I'll continue to bring my daughter to meetings and sit respectfully. BUT...if I'm not good enough to talk to, then I'm not good enough to make contributions either."
And this I would not do for ten months, until I was reinstated. But by then I knew it was baloney anyway, so I didn't resume contributing then either.