Grrr Mother in law strikes again

by KW13 14 Replies latest jw friends

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  KW13

  Last night megan was having what appeared to be labour again, so while i was upstairs megans mum said 'are you sure you want karl in the labour room with you, i can be there' just because she wants her to get the experience. fortunately for her i was told about this while i was out because i'd of seriously lost it, i was angry but mostly hurt and upset. WTF is that all about? i'd even been nice and said, i'd get my stepdad to run her in and she can pop in the room every now and then but apparently not good enough, she had to try cut me out of the picture all together.

  Megan said its because she wants to have it for HER but its not her f****** son. Megan did tell her there and then but grrr

  I've explained to megan if anything of this sort happens again i wont be responsible for what i do or say.
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  AlmostAtheist

  >>are you sure you want karl in the labour room with you, i can be there

  Wow, no wonder you were upset!

  Seriously though Man, people will be whoever they are. No amount of you flying off the handle will ever make her better. You rise above it and let her make an ass of herself -- no one will question who holds the high ground.

  Hang in there!

  Dave
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  KW13

  thanks man, its just really really really annoying.
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  ninja

  have you seen the blood and snotters at the delivery??....she was doing you a favour.....I only went to my 3 kids births coz I'm scared of my mrs.....traumatised ninja
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  dobbie

  Sorry about that you don't need the hassle at a time like this do you! When my sis in law was pregnant she was determined her mum was going to be there as well, but her hubby on no account wanted her there (she's a VERY interfering i'm always right sort of person). Luckily sis in law backed down in the end and they compromised that her mum could come and stay for the week after. I can see how what you heard would have made you mad, i don't blame you. Like AA said though try to rise above her level and just concentrate on the three most important things, you, Megan and baby. Can't be long now!
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  KW13

  have you seen the blood and snotters at the delivery??....she was doing you a favour.....I only went to my 3 kids births coz I'm scared of my mrs.....traumatised ninja

  lol i know that bit aint cool but ya get a few mini-me's after!!
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  RAF

  it's sad in fact (this kind of antagonism) ... at least Megan doesn't get into that game ... So only your MIL is losing something here already ... Nothing to react to (keep cool - if you can)
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  kitten whiskers

  Oh I am so sorry! You make sure you're there for Megan! I was so glad my hubby was there. He was the only one I wanted. I didn't even want anyone in the waiting room! I always feel pressure to entertain and make others comfortable. This was one time I didn't want to worry about keeping anyone there for hours and not performing a quick birth. It is a most personal and sacred occasion.
  I don't know much about your mother-in-law, I am just hoping that because you are so young ( I am assuming Megan is too) that she is worried about her baby having a baby. I can only imagine how scary it must be to worry about your child going through labor. I hope it isn't just that she wants to be a glory hog! Don't let her push you out of your rightful place. Father's today are different from 20 years ago. It is natural for people to expect the father in the delivery room now. We've come a long way baby!
  Kitten Whiskers (of the excited to see new baby KW pictures class!)
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  Scully

  The hospital may allow for more than one support person to be with Megan during labour. It's actually a good idea if you can work it out with your mother-in-law to share the support role while Megan is in labour. It will give you and Mum opportunities to go and fetch things Megan may want to have with her, and Megan won't have to be left alone. You can talk to the hospital staff about your birth plan and say that you've decided that her mum can help provide labour support, but Megan wants you to be present for the delivery. Her mum can be right outside in the waiting area and the staff can let her in once the baby is born and you're ready for her.

  Labour with first babies especially can take a very long time, so you might welcome the opportunity to go for a nap, a shower or a cup of tea, while being assured that someone is with Megan. Just make sure that you are nearby so you can return to the hospital at a moment's notice.
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  delilah

  Hi KW....I can understand your frustration. You just be sure YOU are with Megan in the delivery room. Maybe your hospital will allow more than two people there, at the time of delivery, so your m/i/l can be present as well, if that's what Megan wants.

  You can stand at her head, and view the birth in a mirror, if you do not want to be at the receiving end....then you won't be in the "line of fire".

  It is the most beautiful thing you will ever be a part of....the birth of your child. My husband was adamant that he was NOT going to be in the delivery room, with all the blood and guts flying around.

  When I went into labour, he was right there, looking and giving me blow-by-blow description of the baby's head and hair color...and when our first son was born, my husband cried his eyes out. He never really saw any gross stuff, as he was so excited about seeing our son.

  Keep us posted, and post some pics as soon as the darling young prince of JWD is born.