Sorry about that you don't need the hassle at a time like this do you! When my sis in law was pregnant she was determined her mum was going to be there as well, but her hubby on no account wanted her there (she's a VERY interfering i'm always right sort of person). Luckily sis in law backed down in the end and they compromised that her mum could come and stay for the week after. I can see how what you heard would have made you mad, i don't blame you. Like AA said though try to rise above her level and just concentrate on the three most important things, you, Megan and baby. Can't be long now!
Yeah! i actually replied to you but it didnt do it in the post...i was saying i can see why hubby was upset about that, its not the mothers place!!
Will do my best to rise above it, just very difficult when you want to slowly wrap your fingers around her throat lol.
it's sad in fact (this kind of antagonism) ... at least Megan doesn't get into that game ... So only your MIL is losing something here already ... Nothing to react to (keep cool - if you can)
Extemely sad, i've never known a person like her and if i have, i dont have to see them..
Oh I am so sorry! You make sure you're there for Megan! I was so glad my hubby was there. He was the only one I wanted. I didn't even want anyone in the waiting room! I always feel pressure to entertain and make others comfortable. This was one time I didn't want to worry about keeping anyone there for hours and not performing a quick birth. It is a most personal and sacred occasion.
I don't know much about your mother-in-law, I am just hoping that because you are so young ( I am assuming Megan is too) that she is worried about her baby having a baby. I can only imagine how scary it must be to worry about your child going through labor. I hope it isn't just that she wants to be a glory hog! Don't let her push you out of your rightful place. Father's today are different from 20 years ago. It is natural for people to expect the father in the delivery room now. We've come a long way baby!
Kitten Whiskers (of the excited to see new baby KW pictures class!)
Hey kitty.
Will be there for sure, over my dead body will m-i-l be in there. I know how you felt about being pressured if loads of folks were waiting. I would love to believe that Mother in law is worried about her baby, i'd step aside and have both of us in there but what it was, was that SHE wanted the experience for her. Quite a selfish person.
You'll see some pics soon, if he decided to be born lol at the moment he's enjoying it in thar' (saying that, due date is september 2nd).
The hospital may allow for more than one support person to be with Megan during labour. It's actually a good idea if you can work it out with your mother-in-law to share the support role while Megan is in labour. It will give you and Mum opportunities to go and fetch things Megan may want to have with her, and Megan won't have to be left alone. You can talk to the hospital staff about your birth plan and say that you've decided that her mum can help provide labour support, but Megan wants you to be present for the delivery. Her mum can be right outside in the waiting area and the staff can let her in once the baby is born and you're ready for her.
Labour with first babies especially can take a very long time, so you might welcome the opportunity to go for a nap, a shower or a cup of tea, while being assured that someone is with Megan. Just make sure that you are nearby so you can return to the hospital at a moment's notice.
Scully it is a sensible idea because it means that not only will Megan have a break from one of us but also we get a break too. We've got Megans Sister willing to help and all that, i like her and trust her whereas Megans mum just thinks of no one but herself. Megan chose her sister and i'm happy with her choice. Hope your tribe is well btw.
Hi KW....I can understand your frustration. You just be sure YOU are with Megan in the delivery room. Maybe your hospital will allow more than two people there, at the time of delivery, so your m/i/l can be present as well, if that's what Megan wants.
You can stand at her head, and view the birth in a mirror, if you do not want to be at the receiving end.... then you won't be in the "line of fire".
It is the most beautiful thing you will ever be a part of....the birth of your child. My husband was adamant that he was NOT going to be in the delivery room, with all the blood and guts flying around.
When I went into labour, he was right there, looking and giving me blow-by-blow description of the baby's head and hair color...and when our first son was born, my husband cried his eyes out. He never really saw any gross stuff, as he was so excited about seeing our son.
Keep us posted, and post some pics as soon as the darling young prince of JWD is born.
Hey Delilah. Yeah VERY VERY VERY frustrated Yesterday, calmer today though and i told megan not to take it any further and just to leave it like you all told me
Your right about 2 folks although Megan doesnt want 2, only her sister if and when i need/want a break its useful for other people Meg wants to see.
I cant wait, you've described something amazing! That was the other frustration with Megans mum, because not only is it the Birth of MY son its something to give me a lift and a chance to sort my head out, no way i am missing out on that.
Photos as soon as possible!!
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Thanks all, been helpful and i feel calmer too ...