by dobbie 29 Replies latest jw friends
i think in these instances we have to be the grown ups! And also remember that although our families may shun us, it is not a sign they do not love us, it is brainwashing, and in years to come who knows but they will be here with us ...Won without a word...lol!
Horrible situation, I feel for you, but think sending a card is the appropriate thing to do, if they dont acknowledge it, it's their loss.
Poppy
Showing human caring could never be wrong. Even though they shun you, show them you can step up higher than they do. Even if they choose to rip the card up and dispose of it, at least you did your part.
Damn the religion, do what is in your heart. W.Once
I have mixed feelings n this, only because I HAVE sent cards and a nice personal note and have it come back to me later that they were insulted (go figure). I also have sent a sympathy card to someone (JW) who I knew hated me, and found out that the recipient was quite touched by my gesture.....(the lady's nonJW daughter told me when we saw each other in a public place months later.)
We just never KNOW how something will be taken, but I guess if I had to say yes or no...I would say yes...send a card.
hugs,
Annie
I would send them a card, show them that you are better then they are, that despite the cruel treatment you are the one who acts more like a true christian
Send the card, it is the right thing to do. And Yes you are better than they are.
thanks i am going to write it out later when the kiddies are asleep, as think i need quiet to think what to put down in case they misconstrue it. I thought they may just throw the card away as well, but as i won't be there to see it i won't know either way so it own't matter. Its horrible to think they are going to be hurting and they can't accept our help but fortunately she has alot of jw friends to help her.
Well, I wouldn't deny my husband one last chance to see his dying father, if that was what he wanted to do. Actually, I would insist that my husband go and see his father.
Perhaps the family would allow you and the children also to see him and say your goodbyes and I-love-you's as well - it wouldn't hurt to ask. If they say no, the wrong is on their part, not yours. You could offer to only stay for a very brief visit, just so that you can do that.
If they do not wish for you to be there, then send a card with your husband to convey your love and say goodbye. Then after he dies, plant a rosebush or another kind of shrub in your garden to honour your father-in-law's memory.
No matter how much we disagree with other family members, we can still tell them and show that we love them.
You would probably regret not sending a card more so than sending one.
sorry scully if i'm unclear its not hubbys dad (hes not a jw thank goodness) its sis in laws dad. His bro is married to sis in law. I try now to get hubby to see his mother and shes perfectly healthy but he refuses to go because of how they are with me.
I try now to get hubby to see his mother and shes perfectly healthy but he refuses to go because of how they are with me.
I think thats great dobbie. Your husband is a real man.
