What did you get told off for?

by KW13 17 Replies latest jw friends

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  KW13

  I wanted to become an Unbaptized publisher, i'd started helping out at the Congregation and i was enjoying the responsibilities that any young lad would want to get (as a JW) like doing Microphones in absence of Brothers and occasionally while they were there as well, before my friends who weren't making 'progress'.

  Anyway, i went for my Unbaptized Publisher goal and i got there in the end - making the truth my own, but i was held back by a month or two because some clowns reported me for swearing and a few other things and i have a feeling that was Stepdad and/or some of my so called friends jealous of my progress, because immediately after they all became unbaptized publishers I felt like packing it in right there and then.

  So...yeah that was mine, i know people have a lot better/worse however you view it but i was so upset by that. Maybe i was swearing, maybe i wasn't at the time i can't remember but i do remember both Stepdad/Friends swearing on occasions.

  AS a really young child, i remember mum crying like she often did because she was depressed (what happened to Jehoobers happy people) and around a corner outside an elder who i used to like told me it was my fault mum was upset? I was like 8 or 9 for goodness sake.
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  sweetstuff

  Hmm, let's see, what I watched on tv, what music I listened to, what clothes I wore, what opinions I spoke, that about sums it up!
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  mrsjones5

  By my mother cuz I wouldn't answer the questions at the watchtower study or the Tuesday night book study.
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  LongHairGal

  By "told off" I assume you mean 'counseled'.

  Various nervy people tried to 'counsel' me about making myself available. When translated into English what this meant was that I wouldn't let the con-artists take advantage of me.

  I was 'counseled' about my clothing a couple of times over the years. They have real issues about women.

  Once, a nervy sister tried to get the elders to 'counsel' me because I told her a few things about herself.

  Most of the conflicts I had there had to do with me defending myself against people who were overstepping their boundaries or people who were trying to insult my intelligence.

  LHG
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  loosie

  Our presiding overseer told me when I was 5 years old that if I didn't stop talking to my DF'd 19 year old brother that I would die at armageddon. This was in 1975.

  I know I should get over it because that was a long time ago. But my therapist and I talked about this incident and I am not over it. When you grow up thinking all your life that you could die you grow up a little warpped.
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  LearningToFly

  Hmm well... my sweet gran found a book hidden in my dresser.. called.. "how to make love to a man". I arrived home from school.. feeling doom long before I reached my door. She had called the elders.. and I had to face them... ughhhhhhhhh!!!!! : Luckily for me, the elder that visited was the only one I liked.. and I knew he felt pity for me, and was not unkind. So much for innocent searching..
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  MeneMene

  An elder pulled me aside after TMS when I was about 18. He had been told I had promised to go on a date with a particular young man whose grandmother was a JW. Apparently I did not show up for the second date and his grandmother told on me (I can't think of anyone else that would have).

  I had been fixed up for a blind date with this guy. He was not only obnoxious, he was not a JW and I found out he was MARRIED!! No way was I going out with him again.

  And "Brother Elder" was counselling me for not going on another date with the guy because they claimed I said I would!!!! !!!!
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  R.F.

  Our presiding overseer told me when I was 5 years old that if I didn't stop talking to my DF'd 19 year old brother that I would die at armageddon. This was in 1975.

  Wow! That sure is something to tell to a 5 year old, someone that is very much still a baby.

  R.F.
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  R.F.

  I forgot to mention this......

  I was interrogated and chewed out by an elder because my ex and I were alone in my car once while we were dating. She didn't have a license and she had an appointment to be at during the daytime. I wasn't working that day and it had to be about 200 degrees fahrenheit that day(ok it couldn't have possibly been that hot but you get the idea).

  She thought about walking but it was way too hot and there was no way I would let her do that, so I just took her myself. At the next meeting I was yanked into the back room and reminded of the wonderful information that the "unfaithful faithful and mindless discreet slave" provides on not being alone on dates. I told him that it wasn't a date but he said it doesn't matterm, ....talk about your unreasonableness.

  So I guess one of the Borg memebers saw us and decided to rat us out, or he saw us out himself.

  R.F.
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  WTWizard

  Held back from becoming an unpaid slave for swearing? At that, heresay? OK, so maybe you did say a dirty word (and occasionally most of the Witlesses will use one). But, I would think of it as more of a habit: if you habitually used foul language, it might be reason enough to not get to become an unbaptized publisher. But for heresy of saying one dirty word? What if I told the hounder-hounder that I heard my lead hounder say the F word out in service, whether or not it was true and suggested his removal? Or if I caught Ted Jaracz say the N word, would that disqualify him from being a member of the Governing Body? I am sure he does use that word, but not in print or public.

  Aside this, the Watchtower Society seems to have an obsession with keeping the two sexes apart. You are not allowed to drive someone of the opposite sex home, even in daylight or in hot weather or a bad neighborhood, since they are so consumed that fornication would result. This also goes for sisters that are too attractive--you can't have anyone that might attract someone of the opposite sex. Better to quarantine them if they can't be made so ugly that they will not attract anyone. I personally wish I could have Ted Jaracz's place in hell filled with the most beautiful women imaginable, but that they all reject him and he is kept from ever coming close to one by the whole of Satan's demons. I can only hope this humanoid has such punishment coming, for eternity.