Those are some crazy stories!
I won't go into much detail because my JW divorce was a real roller coaster ride. My ex used my daughter to punish me. He would go back and forth between affable and friendly and name-calling furor. The thing that lasted was what my poor child had to endure. He told her that she would never see me again, berated me because I would not "free him to remarry" (yes, he said that to a child!). He wanted me to "free him to remarry" but yet to want to become an active JW again - did I mention he was Crazy? He would call me and ask me to "free him." I was more interested in freeing myself. Distraught and broken as I was, I don't think I was a candidate for a relationship. I was supposed to jeopardize my "eternal life" for the sake of his libido. What a wacko!
Anyway, the way it all wound up is that he (unfortunately, with my consent) had custody of my daughter from about age 8. I was granted "liberal visitation" by the court. Of course, my daughter did what teenager do when they live with someone like him - she got pregnant at 16. She separated from her husband at age 18 and came to live with me and go back to school so she could care for her daughter. Now her dad doesn't even call her. He finally remarried about 2-3 years ago (we separated in 1979). so what was all the pressure on me for 'way back then? His insistence on having custody of my daughter was merely a power and control issue. If she needed or now needs support, understanding, or parental advice, I'm the only one there / here for her. How sad...
Regards,
SandraC