For those traumatized by being "raised in the truth"... (page 2)

RisingEagle

Sorry I didn't get to finish, I was called away for a work emergency.

The scenario I described above led me to understand that NO apology was ever going to come. In fact, it was the typical JW coldness that seems to be ingrained in most witnesses. Here was my mom's golden child, the one male that stayed in, keeps his family in, is a ms (was an elder but resigned, maybe an elder again for all I know - we don't talk) and even he has issues with the way with which we were dealt as children, and my mom can't even give a drop of the milk of human kindness and discuss it. In fact, in order to maintain the facade of her holiness, she would even threaten to take him to his own elders.

Are we owed an apology, hell yes. Should we get an apology, yes we should. Will we get an apology, hell no, just more threats because that's what they know how to do well. If I listed everything for which I feel due an apology, JWD would crash.

parakeet

I need no apology from my parents. I forgave them a long time ago. They believed (and still do) that they were doing what was best (however misguided) for me and my sibs.

On the other hand, I will never forgive the Watch Tower Society, who have damaged and continue to damage their adherents with hate-promoting doctrines and many policy errors, for which they have never offered a single apology to their victims.

Mincan

My mother is a beautiful human being and if she apologised to me it would make me sadder than I already am.

To those who said "the past is the past" and "parents did all they could", I'm happy for you too. The reason for that is: you totally missed the point of this thread and have no earthly idea of how bad some witness children were raised. Be glad that you're among the lucky ones.

Get over yourself. I didn't miss the point of this thread. You are simply at a different stage of dealing with this, or perhaps you've cycled or reverted to this stage. Maybe it's not even a stage, it's just your way of dealing with shit. I felt like I wanted an apology when I first left. When I felt arrogant and an asshole. It was driving me literally insane, and I realised just recently you have to forget this shit or it will drive you crazy. I was so close to a mental breakdown, I thought it was the weed, but it was my way of dealing with my problems. It has nothing to do with the weed, but simply your state of mind.

Also, no one is lucky to be raised a JW. We all had gotten dealt a pretty shitty hand. To "gauge" who got the worst hand is pretty pathetic.

ness

i would want my life over too.

aSphereisnotaCircle

I would like an apology for never taking resposibilty for their own lives. I think my parents were just holding their breath until the new system came along to solve everything.

I would also like an apology from my mom for choosing my abusing stepdad over me. But to be fair, the elders told her she did not have grounds for divorce, and she must stay with her husband.

I hate those effin goddam elders.

Twitch

In time, such hot topics will likely fade. If you choose it to. It has for me.

BTW mine have never apologized. And neither have I for some of the things I've done and not necessarily to them. Things will balance out if you let them.

Twitch (of the "has thrown stones himself" klass)

For those traumatized by being "raised in the truth"...