by OnTheWayOut 34 Replies latest jw friends
The gb's take is why buy your little kid a toy when you can help the borg pay for settlements.
Wow, that's very deep and bitter at the same time. I like that.
DL, I would love to meet you one day (especially if that avitar is your actual picture).
I forgot to tell you how happy I was when you took down the Borat with day-glo
workout jumper down.
Thanks all for your wonderful comments.
Wow, that's very deep and bitter at the same time. I like that.
DL, I would love to meet you one day (especially if that avitar is your actual picture).
Yes that's me in the avatar taken last week.
Thank you.
forgot to tell you how happy I was when you took down the Borat with day-glo
workout jumper down.
Okay, I am not a stalker. I am happily married, and I know you have a hubby, too.
I would love to meet you, but hope to meet you AND YOURS one day.
You might be sorry you admitted that's you. All the males here will bother you
like cats near one in heat. VA VA VOOM.
Sassy - I love that "celebrate the beginning of our family".
I used to have theme parties for my kids; 50's, dinosaurs, whatever. All the kids did crafts, played games and got gifts. We had plenty of food including a special cake and ice cream.
oh this reminded me...
Once I had a party for the kids in the hall at Mcdonalds.. it was just like a birthday party except no birthday on the cake.. and no presents.. I had them all come and play the games, etc... Only did it one time though.. should have done it at least once a yr..
Sassy,
We had family parties too. Once a month with presents for everyone. Taught the kids to be generous too. The biggest one was always on our anniversary, which happened to be very close to Christmas. Made the kids feel not so left out when they returned to school after Christmas. It drove one elder crazy, but he couldn't do anything, as it was our legitimate anniversary and ok to celebrate, according to the borg.
I rarely did – but the issue was always MONEY. Rent took up about half our income and food most of the rest. And God forbid anybody should get sick. We never had even enough to give our kids a regular allowance – is it any wonder that gift giving was always at the bottom of the list?
Oddly enough, now that I'm free to celebrate Christmas and birthdays, I find myself picking up whatever amusing trifle seems to be "just right for my friend" whenever I see it, even if the next present-giving day is months off. I just bought a Christmas present for someone I offended who took the initiative to be friends again, but maybe I'll give it to her right now instead.
gently feral
When i was a jw i always gave gifts, usually i gave them to my non jw family in january (just after xmas lol), from our holidays and on their anniversary. We also bought the hubbys jw family holiday gifts and anniversary ones, but the year before last after i spent (wasted) nearly £100 on his mother and step father, and i didn't even get a thanks and realised that they never even gave us a card for ours ever, we decided to stop. We used to buy our son toys constantly though (i could actually open a toy shop with all the stuff we have)
Now what with doing birthdays xmas easter anniversaries etc we have actually been broke since last xmas, can't believe how much it all costs lol!
YES! But NOT like THIS!
I used to give things to those I visited, when I felt like it. Occasionally I would find someone that I felt needed something--once I saw a family at the Grand Boasting Session that the children were obviously quite poor. They made such a big deal about a toy McDonalds binoculars with crap optics that it was blatantly obvious that they would appreciate something decent. I had the sense of combining entertainment with education, since they were at the age where they were starting to have fun with numbers. I gave them some basic calculators, which they had fun with. I avoided more expensive ones since they would have only confused them at that age (first grade).
As for families getting gifts all year, most of them are so poor from the janitorial work that they cannot afford them. Besides, the time and money is for the ministry. Money that could be spent on a toy would be "better spent" by supporting Ted Jaracz. And the time that could be spent playing with it would be "better spent" on service.
I have rarely experienced seeing children come to the Kingdumb Hell excited about a toy. More common is that years go by and all they get are new dresses or suits. That new service bag is usually the most exciting thing they get all year. This is in fact the most common thing among Witless families. The attitude that prevails is that they don't need to get gifts, and there never is enough money or time to get them (and if there is, they aren't being self-sacrificing enough. So the gifts get left out.
I have, on the other hand, occasionally given people (usually children that I felt needed them) items that they totally did not expect. Once I was visiting a family where the father was disabled partially and quite poor, and I gave the children items that I knew they would have fun with including a ream of drawing paper, numerous colored pencils that I knew would last a while, calculators, and other miscellaneous fun items. Another I gave a portable tape player with some tapes I had recorded with some good music at home (and two mega-packs of batteries). In these cases, the children were disadvantaged in some way either with a divided household or poverty, or both and had little or no entertainment.
However, I will not give gifts to people just because the hounders tell me to. If they tell me to give something to someone I don't feel worthy of it (because they are brats, the parents try to control me, or I feel reasonably sure that they will just bust the item without getting any real use out of it), I will either not do it, or I will get the cheapest item I can find. In the case of tape players, I will put the filthiest rap on those tapes I can get. That will teach them a lesson in forcing me to give to others I do not view as worthy.
Sassy,
We had family parties too. Once a month with presents for everyone. Taught the kids to be generous too. The biggest one was always on our anniversary, which happened to be very close to Christmas. Made the kids feel not so left out when they returned to school after Christmas. It drove one elder crazy, but he couldn't do anything, as it was our legitimate anniversary and ok to celebrate, according to the borg.
yeah.. you know I apologized to one of my sons not that long ago about missing out on Christmas all the years they were growing up..
he said.. mom.. you always had all the presents on anniversary.. it was just like having Christmas..
it did help me feel a little better..
