As a JW, Did You Exhibit An Attitude of Superiority???

by minimus 30 Replies latest jw friends

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  Awakened07

  I was never one of the 'in-crowd', in any of the congregations I went to. I never strove for positions (privileges), never was a pioneer (but auxiliary once or perhaps twice), and basically never believed in myself. Never had a study, probably for that reason.

  And still I would sometimes leer ["leer" may be the wrong word; it was the best I could find on 'short notice'] at people coming late to the meeting, people not in good standing, people who had been DFed and just been reinstated, people only coming in for the memorial, etc. Today I hate that I would once think or act like that toward others.

  I think that in any group of people where you can strive for 'perfection' and to earn 'privileges', there will be some who do well and others not so well, and you will get a class system eventually.
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  minimus

  Awakened, isn't it funny how "weak" JWs "look down" on even "weaker" JWs?
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  Tyrone van leyen

  I think because of the lack of fun and the structure of beleifs there was no other way to feel good about yourself. Then you resort to making other people feel small so you can feel big.

  Depending on how much you get your ass kicked or get humiliated then you are more able to have compassion for others. I am still trying to build a healthy self esteem. You can have pride and not be arrogant. Being proud of a job well done for instance. It should never be at the expense of others that you build yourself up. It must come from within. Loud voices keep telling me I'm not worthy, and when you get shunned by your peers at large this is further evidence to support that beleif.

  The end result of humility is good but it was a terrible way of learning it. I am not immune to having a male ego either, but I try to keep things in check.
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  minimus

  Good boy, Tyrone!
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  jaguarbass

  I realized when I was 19 and my friends were in college who had the upper hand.

  I dont ever remember being superior because I was a witnoid. I saw at as a curse from my mother that I had to deal with.
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  Tyrone van leyen

  It's a strange paradox, but being folowers of Christ and being directed by holy sprit, no one that grows up in this, or who is baptised or serving in any capacity, should be exhibiting such a gross contradiction. There are humble folks in there however, but I think they are a rare breeed. The Po of my cong. was about as arrogant and mean spirited as you could imagine. It suprizes me that the org. doesn't filter this behaviour out becuse this guy set the tone for the cong. It all such a bunch of crap.

  I don't much beleive that the bible or studies, change anyones heart. You are who you are and it is only pain that will effect any meaningful change unless you are a good soul who is brought up around considerate people to begin with, but that still doesn't mean you will be humble. I hope I'm not generalizing here.

  I can tell Minimus is the type of guy that likes to wash peoples feet.
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  KW13

  Some dubs "poor lil worldlings...gonna die soon...the end is coming but we are not going to die, for we are jehoobers people"

  Myself "I hope i've done nothing to deserve falling in that huge crack in the ground, or get struck by lightning or something"
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  aSphereisnotaCircle

  No, I was a female married to a bro who never became a MS, much less an elder. he wasn't even good enough to handle the mics.

  So I was pretty low on the social latter.
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  minimus

  Tyrone, I only wash females feet .
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  Tyrone van leyen

  That's true humility Minimus. You must have had a good relationship with your mother. Somehow I get the feeling your'e annointing them too. LOL!