by minimus 54 Replies latest jw friends
"Dubylon"....very clever!
If a wife really, truly loved her husband and he asked her to perform oral sex, a faithul JW wife wouldn't do it. If the husband was persistent, the loyal to Jehovah wife might feel compelled to speak to the elders about this "disgusting" homosexual style request. Does the couple have a marital problem? Yes.They also have a religious one because one mate is ignoring the religious biblical ban on such things----per the view of Witnesses.
It's total bullshit!
What is??
I am not sure if it is a religious problem, but is is sure a marital problem.
My wife and I were struggling for a long time about my decision to leave the "truth." She never let up on her tirade about how bad I was for leaving jehovah (you havent lived until you hear that tirade while attempting to have sex). She absolutely equated watchtower=jehovah.
My last straw was when she sent the elders to me so that I could reform. This was after I quite going to meetings and made it absloutely clear that I was through with the wt. That meeting was unwelcome and was the most stressful day of my life. If I had a gun I would have shot the elder and then myself. I was absolutely at the end of my patience with my wife and my existence.
Three years later and I am within a week of finalizing my divorce. Until that point of meeting the elders, I tried and tried to make the marriage work. After that point in time I decided to get on with my life. It has been very painful and VERY expensive (worth every penny). But it is over and I have the the rest of my life to live.
What is??
A spouse rattin' you out to the Pharisees.
"Dubylon"....very clever!
Thanks, Minimus.
I believe that after learning about cognitive dissonance on this forum, that a couple who puts each other above dublaw, has got to be living in the land of cognitve dissonance to beable to live like this in the face of all the "timely counsel" to not cover over another's sins. This is probably the only time that cognitive dissonance is a good thing.
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I was married before I became a dub, maybe that's why I never thought that way. I am glad my husband doesn't see it that way either. He could turn me in for a whole lotta stuff! But, he chooses not to.
It put a strain on our marriage for a while when I quit everything that pertained to jws. I faded rather fast. But we worked things out and still are working on it.
My husband and I have always been there for each other. The watchtower society and the ones I called friends for 30 years, I can not say the same thing about.
Yes, Minimus, I am aware that there are real Stepford Witnesses, but I just don't think me or my husband were ever really one of them.
You see the point is that JWs are screwed up. The RELIGION makes them that way. Put these individuals in almost any other religion and you won't get the same response. That's why it's clear to me that it's mostly a religious issue.
Of course, you can hardly have the existence of a Witness if they didn't compartmentalize things in terms of this or that kind of issue, even if the beliefs reaches into everything. The simple fact of the matter is there is much more world than there is JW world, so they have to kind of build some kind of walls to keep it out.
The opposite view would be there is NOTHING that can tarnish the holy, whether you're talking about God or love or whatever - but of course people are too caught up in their own trip to even consider that.
I can imagine that in a very unlikely alternate reality, the JWs actually hold these beliefs but there is actual love permeating it all. Clearly they would be much more tolerant if nothing else, but more importantly the beliefs wouldn't be nearly as important - it would be like the color of your car.
Good point, min.
