Hello people, as some of you may know, I have been married to Mrs. Flipper for almost a year now. Life is great, we both have never been happier! But I know it's not like that for some of you, believe me, been there , done that at another time and place.
As a witness, the organization makes you think that you have to stick it out so to speak, try to work things out, even in an abusive relationship. I was briefly married in 2002 to an abusive drug abuser who with the type of drugs she did, made her very verbally violent, even physically violent at times. She would lose her temper at the drop of a dime, and 17 times in our year and a half marriage , she would kick me out of the bedroom, throwing my checkbook, wallet, clothes, and keys down the hallway, just because she was in a snit over some small thing. She'd yell and say, " Your going to sleep in another room tonight. " I was still in the organization at the time.
She was not, and at the time the elders acted supportive, like they were concerned . But we went to counseling , it did not work , and she made the move to leave me. It was quite a relief actually. But these same elders turned on me after she left, and tried to encourage me to get back with her, because she had missed me and wanted to get back together. I told the elders I was not going to put my teenage kids in harms way by taking her back. They tried to blame me , and I told them to take a flying leap, I had done everything I could to save the marriage. These elders were pushing their personal opinions to me contrary to what their own Family Book counsels, on page 161, paragraph 20, I quote," In all cases of extreme spousal abuse, no one should put pressure on the innocent mate either to separate or to stay with the other. While mature friends and elders may offer support and bible based counsel, these cannot know all the details of what goes on between a husband and wife. Only Jehovah can see that. "
So these elders were not following the governing bodies direction. I have seen this in so many other people's lives, where they were counseled to be a better wife and he won't abuse you, blah, blah, blah ! But this is false reasoning. If you or someone you know is going through abuse, you don't have to take it! Get help, get counseling, and you can free yourself from an abusive person! Don't let elders of any religion tell you you can't have that freedom! They're wrong! Once you are free from an abusive relationship it will be like a breath of fresh air that you have not taken for awhile. So get yourself free, educate yourself, and find happiness again. I did, and I'm glad I did, found real happiness again. Have any of you seen or heard of experiences you would like to share of breaking free from abusive relationships so those going through these things can see this is possible ? Welcome everyone's experiences. It might help some going through this ! Just might save a life here! Peace to you all, Mr. Flipper