by Trilobite 132 Replies latest jw friends
Hey T,
I mailed you. I want to help, I have to see what I can do.
I know many here are going through/have gone through lay offs this year (my husband was laid off for six months) and might not be able to commit to a monthly donation.
I hope that won't deter folks from giving what they can though. It all adds up...
es
(((((lilacs))))))))
I share your feelings hun. Unc comf fark,I have to add kent Md jan ,wasasis and others too numerous to name.
They entered my life and helped me change it for the better.
Actually fark gave me my first good butt kicking lol. And it was Unc who I ran crying too :>(hopin fark sees this and makes him smile-just a leetle bit) All the ownderful men and all the strong beautiful women Ive met,then and continue to now.
"I get by with a little help from my friends' beatles said it best.luv,t
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Hi Essie et al,
Thanks all for yr help. I must admit that I suggested paypal with little thought. The details can probably be worked out later. The situation is desperate but long term plans are needed more than immediate fixes I believe, fark correct me if this is wrong. I just think that if we can guarantee, more or less, a certain monthly amount for Farkel and, if people agree, the other poster, then it makes things much easier for one of them, or perhaps, makes life even possible for Fark. I don't want to be in any way in charge of how this is done; in fact when it comes to details I am a disaster. Please pledge what you can monthly for 6 months and please please please suggest the best way to transmit the money.
Also, some have offered lump sums; these are much appreciated. Not sure how to factor them in, maybe the simplest is to send directly. I think that montkly stability guaranteed for several months will be most effective though. But there are no rules.
Thanks so much gang, I am to the point of tears at the emails I'm getting.
Also, please all try to contact Farkel.
T.
T I just mailed you this, but I'll put it up here too:
PayPal has a policy that you can only receive a small amount (I think it's still 100 dollars) per month into the account without having to upgrade to a business account, which of course costs money.
What about setting up bank accounts at the closest possible bank location to Farkel and the other person? Then the money can only be accessed by them.
Just an idea,
*hugs*
essie
Ess,did it say how much the account cost? If it isnt that much I don't think it would be a big problem. I have a paypal account and had at one time 900.00 in it. I think I only paid like $1 for using it. Maybe the cost has gone up.
Lilacs
"I don't want someone in my life I can live with, I want someone in my life I can't live without."
I think that the amount matters more than the way its sent?
What if you totalled up all the contributions you can count on and then divided them up by the number of months? If they were put into a savings/checking account they might even earn interest. Just an idea.
As I said, PayPal is a good thing in some situations but for something like this, it would be tricky.
Again, I suggest a direct bank account fund set up where people can send their contributions. At least we would know then that no service (like PayPal) would be taking any fees out of the contributions.
More to contribute on this tomorrow, I'm sick as a dog and way past the need for sleep.
Fark, if you're seeing this, you know I love ya man.
Night all
*HUG*
es
Hi Lilacs,
I don't know, I've never had a business account with them, only personal so maybe someone here who does will know what the fees are?
The thing that concerns me too is that PayPal sends a paper check when you withdraw the money from the account and unless we're sure where Doug will be, where will they send it? That is another concern.
I am sure all of this will get worked out tomorrow. I know I'm so braindead I can't think anymore tonight, but I will sleep on it.
Also, the other poster who is in some need apparently is someone that many of us love and respect. I hope that this will turn into something truly helpful for this poster, and for farkel.
Off to bed now, soooooo tired I know I'm not making sense.
*hugs* to all
essie
Es,
Great points. I think you're idea makes sense. How about we continue with the pledges and then we all decide on the best way to proceed? I have to admit I didn't think at all about the logistics....anything is fine with me as long as we (i) raise the bucks and (ii) get it to those who need it with no substantial fees attached.
You guys are the greatest. It's a real honor to know you all,
Love,
T.
I just don't know where to begin........I've spent the last few hours on ARJW letting off some steam and haven't really looked at the posts here.....I logged on briefly to bookmark/save the links to the UN "proof" and a few other subjects, but haven't read anything new in quite a few hours......
My GOD, my heart is breaking for Doug, he has meant so much to me (even though I lost track of him for months online) I DO love him so for acting as a liason (HE will know what I mean) and giving of himself; a little piece of Farkel that Farkel can hide so well..
I don't even remember if I ever shared with him so very much of the "parental" pain that we had in common (I can't believe I'm telling all this) but when I got baptized in 1972, my parents and my only sister disowned me and haven't spoken to me since then.
When I went on H20 to make a comment on a news article (still a loyal JW then) I was stunned to see so many negative things said about my religion, and within a few months time (July-September '99) I came to the horrible, gutsinking and desperate feeling that what I had accepted and dedicated my LIFE to, was based on lies and deceit, and I was shattered.
I have written letter after letter, just pouring my heart out to my parents and my sister, apologizing for the mistake I made, not done maliciously, but because I thought I was doing it for God and begging for forgiveness, and to be "let back into" the family.
My heartfelt and sincere letters only fueled more flames of conflict, and my Father told others in the family that my "timing" was good, to get back into the "good graces" of the family when both he and my Mom were close to death, and that I would never get a penny....etc. This was NOT what I was "after", EVER, I just wanted to be acknowledged and forgiven and to make peace with them.
I got a call a little while ago that my mother had died somewhere in MA nursing home (I wasn't "allowed" to know where it was since last summer)and I had just logged on to write to one daughter who still speaks to me, and for some reason I clicked on here first, only to find this thread about Doug.
I didn't cry when I heard about my mother's death, I guess I kind of felt numb...but right now I can hardly see the keys to type for the tears that are streaming down my face....which kinda tells me what hit me in the gut and what didn't.......
I hope to hell you are reading all these posts, Doug, and accepting just how VERY much love and heartfelt support you have right here...my heart is breaking for you and my emotional focus is far more centered on you right now, than letting my daughter know that her grandmother just died...can you understand that..please, and where it's coming from?
You ARE a special and unique human being...stay that way!
hugs, Sunspot
bttt
outnfree
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