Wife went to bed in tears again. Sept KM this time. Her response.. (page 3)

RollerDave

I too, feel for ya, oompa.

She's not going to make it east for you, she's been taught that losing you from the religion means you will become some kind of animal.

She needs reassurance that you are still YOU, and love her, and won't leave her no matter what she chooses.

Find things you can do together to strengthen the bond between you independantly of the JW's, take her out for dinner and a movie or snuggle up watching a movie on the couch.

Take a drive to see fall colors, a walk somewhere beautiful, something nice.

This all enhances your credibility, and weakens theirs.

It takes time and is a perilous path, but it will be worth it.

You can do it,

RD

sass_my_frass

So, you have contact with your son, right?

XBEHERE

"Why do you only see the negative? You have been like this for two years, and I don't think I can take anymore. What about the good things in the orginazation?"

This is almost the same exact thing my wife told me the other day when I was complaining about something in the congregation. I forsee a long road ahead for people in our situation unless our mates wake up on their own.

oompa

Tula: (Notice I didn't say to have the decisions already made for them) There should be freedom of thought and freedom of choice.

I hate to even admit this, the next day my wife re-read the QB and tells me she is glad the Society said to just use "our" literature because that way we won't get any incorrect "outside" information because they have already done all the research and made sure any information they quote is correct!!!!!! Would someone please shoot me.

I explain that I would rather do my own research as 1 Thess. 1:21 says to "make sure of all things" thank you.

Now the new twist. She concludes that we can still go to the library. That when it says the "FDS does not endores ANY literature meetings, and websites" that it is referring only to the info produced by the "groups" mentioned in the previous paragraph. OK I tell her, I hope that is right, but they could have made that much plainer by saying "such" lit. and websites, or "we do not endores material from these improper groups", but no, it says "ANY" literature or websites.

Am I way off on my understanding of this new study directions, and yes, I will be going to see how it is presented at the meeting this week. I never even THOUGHT of the way she is wanting to apply this information.

what they hey is going on....oompa

greendawn

It's not just a question of seeing the negative side of things which after all exists in all human organisations but rather are there enough good things to outweigh the bad? If the bad far outweigh the good what's the point?

fresia

Yes I guess sometimes it is not time to bring certain things up, even when it is a whammy like the Sept KM. You have a lot to contend with. I think having to excerise patience is about all we can do in a situtation like this. Hopefully some little thing you have said will help her think, like they say we should plant little seeds in the ministry, well take a leaf out of their book and keep planting little seeds of truth to her.

snowbird

I feel for you, oompa. You said:

It kills me seeing her go to all the meetings and I mean ALL the meetings alone.

My now 18 year-old daughter has been going alone since 2005. I used to get a hollow feeling when she would leave the house, but I knew that I had to be true to my convictions. I am convinced the WTS is a crooked, deceitful organization. To continue to support it in any way just because I felt sorry for my baby girl would have been the ultimate hypocrisy. I'm sure one day she will thank me for it.

Sylvia

erandir

Sounds like she is grasping at straws, so to speak. My wife sees it my way concerning this article in that the GB is contradicting the bible's example of the Bereans and other scriptures along those lines. It helps that she has a close friend who also feels that this article is questionable. I can't wait for her to attend this Thursday to see how it goes down at the hall.

She still is trying to meet it all with a "wait on Jehovah" attitude.

One good thing, though, is that she can't stand being around the "super-dubs" at the hall.

I wish you luck with your wife. Be sure to introduce her to the idea of circular logic. For example, the bible is inspired and beneficial and trustworthy because it says so in the bible. Or, the FDS is trustworthy and gives us all the research we need because they say so and they are trustworthy.

Wife went to bed in tears again. Sept KM this time. Her response..

What-A-Coincidence