by El Kabong 32 Replies latest jw friends
During a judicial committee I remarked to the elders present that I would call the police the next time my husband abused me. A young indignant elder promptly told me that things were not handled that way in Jehovah's organization. "Jehovah's organization is a THEOCRACY, not a democracy", he yelled.
Another elder told me during another jc that a brother could not rape his wife, and quoted ephesians in support.
As I sat with a fellow elder on a judicial committee, he related that he did not see what the big deal was after all there was no sex involved and that could hardly be considered molestation. He then went on to relate when he was a younger man and in the world he often had underage girls and took it as a kind of challenge.
Can you picture a man such as this being used to judge a molestation case or even be considered as an elder? The society had the answer, they made him a Presiding Overseer. God help those that inhabit that congregation.
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C
When the pain of being where we are, becomes greater than our fear of letting go...we will risk and heal and grow.
The P.O. at the hall I went to commented from the platform that 'Bigfoot' could be left-over Nephilim offspring.
TR
The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.
—Edmund Burke
Many years ago, we (nonJW hubby) had a "run" of bad luck, our car had blown "something" that couldn't be fixed, our rent was overdue, the finance company had given us the date that our furniture was to be repossessed, and hubby had lost his job because he couldn't GET there (35 miles away) and he was making comments like we'd be better off without him, etc.
I was sick with worry every time I left the house, at what he might do when the rest of us were at "the meetings". REALLY frightened that he would harm himself.
There was a "get together" for someone who was moving away, and I had taken the kids and gone to it, and cornered an Elder to explain the situation and ask for advice.
His reaction? He asked me what had *I* done to make my husband so despondant?
I was SO furious, but kept my "loyaldub" composure, but I wanted to sock him right in the face for his crappy attitude.
LIFE had dumped on my husband, and dear brother Elder wanted to know what *I* had done.....rotten unfeeling creep.
Shredded families and ruined lives;
The WBTS has MUCH to answer for......
Hugs,
Sunspot
In England every year there is a fund raising event called comic relief for third world countries.
This particular year they had raised about £14 million,
This elder said during a public talk that 'this £14 million would do absolutely nothing to help these people, what they need is the truth'
So basically you and your kids can starve, but if you have a watchtower that makes it OK.
How about no comment at all.
I once overheard a sister pouring her heart out to an elder, whilst he looked off into the middle distance.
When she finished he nodded his head and walked off, whilst she gaped.
LT
Hi all,
What most of these experiences show is that the only thing most so-called elders excel at is making a bad situation worse.
The worst one I remember was when an elder urged a grieving grandfather whose beautiful little 6-year old granddaughter had died that he had better examine his motives for attempting to return to meetins and service (he had been sporadic-to-inactive in meeting attendance and in field service).
```If you're doing it just to be able to see your granddaughther again and not for serving Jehovah, your motive is wrong.''
Two stupid things come to mind:
1) My wife (now ex) moved in with another man, and the elders told me that I didn't have "Scriptual grounds" for divorce because she said they were just roommates sharing the rent. The first meeting I had over this, they had read some rule about spending one night under the same roof with someone who is not your marriage mate is grounds for divorce. The next meeting about a week later, they had done a complete reversal and said that I had no proof she was committing adultery. I argued with the one moron for 45 minutes before he admitted that MAYBE they were wrong. (The heated arguement was right out in the hallway!!
2) One elder said in his public talk that people who joke around alot and are not overly serious are like that because they masturbated and it stunted their ability to mature properly. I almost burst out laughing. But it really was quite sas when I glanced around and saw everybody buying into this crap.
Dan
"But it really was quite sas when I glanced around and saw everybody buying into this crap."
Meant to say quite sad; too early to spell correctly!!
Dan
