How can I help my son?
After speaking with my son (a JW) today, I realise that he has many hurt feelings that he hasn't dealt with. His childhood affected him more deeply than I realised because he hasn't really opened his heart like he did today. His father who is not a JW and never has been,was a heavy drinker and the only interest he took in our son was to torment him or put him down. I tried my best to be both parents and took him to the KH but I had problems of my own and feel that I failed him.
I am sure that my son would benefit from counselling or some form of therapy,but when I suggested it he said that keeping himself busy in "Jehovah's Organisation" and talking to other JW's was the answer. I tried to say to him that keeping busy was only a way of shutting out his feelings and not a way of healing, but he believes that everything outside the Org. isn't necessary. He has totally isolated himself from everything in the " world " that I despair of ever getting through to him. My son sincerely believes everything that he has been told by the borg and doesn't seem to have any suspicions at all. I know that he doesn't read anything or look at anything he is told not to, and is therefore completely under the borgs control.
Perhaps he was unhappy so has made a new "reality" in his life as a JW!!
I have to ask myself ,is it right for me to try and tell him the truth about his "reality" if he is really happy there? Would I do more damage than good, that's if he would listen to me anyway?
I feel so upset and confused and worried about everything right now!
Maddie