Were The Elderly & Infirm Truly Given Assistance In Your Hall?

by minimus 37 Replies latest jw friends

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  minimus

  Our congregation had a number of elderly ones who regularly complained that no one ever helped them. Since the elders didn't really want to be responsible for them, they decreed that the family should help out first. Fair enough. But when oldsters had no family around, they still didn't get the assistance that they needed to get around.

  You couldn't ask a Pioneer to help anyone out. They needed to get their "time" in. Nearly everyone else worked, took care of their own families or simply were apathetic about doing anything for anyone.

  Was your KH elderly and infirm friendly? Did they go out of their way to render assistance?
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  JH

  Each meeting, I gave a lift to an old sister, almost 80, who had a hard time walking. She had no car, and wasn't rich. I did that for about a year. I also gave lifts to 2 older brother, who didn't work and had no car. I helped a lot with my car dragging people around. Each meeting, I filled up my car with people who had no way to get to the hall.

  When I lost my job, no one helped me, nor even hinted about helping me, even though I did so much for others.
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  REBORNAGAIN

  I never paid that much attention in the past, but when my mother (current age 85) whose had leg problems since a car accident years ago wanted to bring into her KH a lawn chair more like a lounger which would allow her to sit with her legs stretched out, they wouldn't allow it. She never went back. This was back in ca. 1986 and has been out of the Borg ever since. But it was numerous issues that turned her off anyway. Good for her!

  LINDA

  I might add, they also reluctantly or never would pick her up to take her to the hall, as she couldn't drive anymore. I was living in another state myself with my own family to tend to, so I couldn't help her.
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  sf

  Haha. On to a new question. eh?

  You are so cute, in a transparent sort of way.

  sKally
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  REBORNAGAIN

  No time to check on our elderly? Of course not, the BORG has us under pressure to do their dirty work first, resulting in the more loving deeds to be neglected. Another strike against them.

  LINDA
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  minimus

  We had one elder's wife who got sick and HE called all the families in the Hall to have lunch and dinner made for them. This went on for over a month until people started publicly complaining of his presumptousness.
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  LeslieV

  Unless publishers can count their time with the sick and elderly it will never change. They do not have time for Christian kindness...it takes away from anyone knowing what they are doing.

  Leslie
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  greendawn

  As far as I know they didn't and they are not likely to have done so due to the lack of solidarity between them, their focus was mainly on preaching which had such a priority before the supposed very-soon-to-be armageddon.
  
  That's more manipulation there, more preaching promotes the interests of the WTS by increasing the sales of their products.
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  minimus

  I knew pioneers that felt guilty over not helping the elderly and sick but HAD to get their time in instead!

  One elder's wife was literally dying and the elder himself was quite unbalanced, and instead of visiting her in the hospital where she lay dying, he was out in service because he aux. pioneered that month and told everyone he made a committment to Jehovah to get his hours in!
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  Scully

  I think this is fairly typical with JWs. If JWs can't count the time, they won't do anything for anyone.

  They really made themselves look like uncompassionate @$$holes when they modified their definition of "sacred service" back in the late 70s/early 80s and excluded important things like caring for the sick, the elderly and the infirm.