When i first left i missed some of my "friends" but the freedom of thought definetly outweighed anything i lost. I frequently told myself not to look back or I would turn into a pillar of salt.
Jeanette
Do You Have Any Mixed Emotions Since Leaving The Witnesses?
by minimus 21 Replies latest jw friends
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Outaservice
I have mixed emotions about what to do with my weekends now. Sleep in or get up and go out for breakfast, mow the lawn, take a color tour, or go shopping. What to do, what to do???????
Outaservice
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minimus
I enjoy a Sunday breakfast after a long sleep.
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AK - Jeff
I am unable to grasp how it would be possible to leave something that was one's entire life without some mixed emotions in going.
Some never attach fully to the doctrines and practices of the religion, and some leave at an early age with most of life ahead of them. For those people disattachment is likely an easier [although note I did not say easy] road than for those whose investment was measured in decades not years.
I think the difference for most is time. The cult made an imprint - like the one that lays across one's face after sleeping on a ribbed fabric. It is easily seen by others for a while - eventually it leaves. One can deny that the imprint was there at all - but it was. It does fade with time. Some more quickly than others.
I still hate being shunned by people whom I called brother [and meant it] for 30, 40 years. I still sting that I was deceived. But as far as wishing to return - NEVER - NEVER - NEVER !!!
I do miss sincere former friends. I would welcome them in my home any day any time. But I do not long to ever return to the vomit.
Jeff
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ninja
I remember having an emotion once.....ONCE........ninja tips his hat to johnny dangerously
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jaguarbass
When I was a witness that was my life for 31 years good and bad. But in retrospect there was much more negative than positive. I had some witness friends that my wife and I went on vacations with and spent weekends with. But that was 25 years ago. I'm still going on vacations and getting through my weekends with out witness friends and with no strings attached. No conditional love.
I guess the only regret I have was it was all a big lie, there was no armegeddon and it looks like there may not even be a God.
But the God they had was pretty evil,malicious and manic depressive. Deffinitely not a loving, kind, god, father type.
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Anti-Christ
No, not any more. I sometimes feel sad for the people still in that are unhappy, but that's it.
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freyd
Slightly off the subject, but does anyone get regular calls from elders wanting to know if there's been a change of heart, perhaps because of mixed feelings?
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Finally-Free
Slightly off the subject, but does anyone get regular calls from elders wanting to know if there's been a change of heart, perhaps because of mixed feelings?
I've heard of people getting calls from elders but I never did. I suspect it's because I never donated any money so I'm of no use to them. W
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Honesty
Slightly off the subject, but does anyone get regular calls from elders wanting to know if there's been a change of heart, perhaps because of mixed feelings?
They will never call here. I gave them with too many questions that they can't answer.