On sending money and flowers to posters in loss . . .

by Happy Harvester 26 Replies latest watchtower scandals

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  Rabbit

  Happy Harvester

  I've never been to an apostafest or personally met anyone on this board, and I sometimes wonder about whether or not I'm wasting my time, but regardless of whether or not anyone else's problems are real, mine are real, at least to me, and it's good to have a place to go vent and talk with people who have been there done that.

  It's truly sad when people play games and mess about with our emotions so that we end up feeling paranoid about being helpful or being ourselves.

  Anyhoo, this whole situation of fraudsters and impostors is a bummer and makes me feel more isolated than I already am. I hope I make some real friends here someday with whom I feel truly safe - to actually go out and meet them and talk with them - without worrying that I've made friends with someone who truns out to be mean-crazy as all get-out. I've had enough of that.

  There are a lot of legitimate people with legitimate problems here, I am sure.
  It was NOT about or directed at anything other than the latest drama of Linda and Trevor because no one else on this board has ever given me reason to suspect they are untrustworthy.

  You've certainly learned a lot about latest drama of Trevor & Linda in your long history of... lets see...6 days & 102 posts.

  I'm glad you seem to feel 'at home', as a newbie, on our board. I'm surprised, that in those 6 days, you haven't attended an Apostafest or made personal friends.

  Well...everyone moves along at their own pace.

  Rabbit
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  Junction-Guy

  Happy Harvester, Apostafests are alot of fun, and there is such a diverse group of people who attend these. Dont let this Trevor keep you from socializing and making new friends.
  
  
  The hardest thing for me to come to grips with is that not all XJW's are sincere persons who want to help others or expose the WT Society. Some are left so mentally ill from their JW background that all they want to do is cause problems, stir up fights, and hide behind a plethora of phony aliases. For the most part the people on this board are sincere. Those that like to cause mayhem usually post on the other board.
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  journey-on

  I've never been to an apostafest or personally met anyone on this board, and I sometimes wonder about whether or not I'm wasting my time

  ??? You've only been here a week, even though your posts sound like you are very at home here on JWD. You've already started thinking you may be wasting time?
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  FlyingHighNow

  I went through horrible loss and tragedy this year. With out the help of JWD, my grandsons and I would not have made it. I have met people from JWD, one recently. I am real. I didn't ask for help, but I do appreciate that it was offered. And I will help people as I can. I have helped many people over the years.

  I haven't read about Trevor. I sort of have an idea of what's happening though.

  Please don't let him ruin your view of all JWDers, especially the ones who need help.
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  Rabbit

  I just wanted to 2nd what FlyingHighNow said,

  Please don't let him ruin your view of all JWDers, especially the ones who need help.

  It's too bad, there are those few 'bad eggs', who have no conscience while destroying others trust. Luckily, they are only a few and get found out.

  Rabbit
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  looking_glass

  I suspect this is much to the perspective of each.

  Each person must feel comfortable about giving in the manner they feel is appropriate. Maybe for those who gave and now feel scammed, the sting will lessen over time. I usually volunteer my time to something instead of giving money because I often times do not agree w/ the manner in which the money is spent (even w/ charities ... for some charities, only 20 cents for every dollar goes to the person in need and the remainder goes to "overhead").

  Money is not the only way to assist someone. Personally I think it is noble what people did or have done for others on this board. No one should feel like an idiot, rather it is the person who takes advantage that should feel rotten (but most likely they do not).
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  Finally-Free

  I'd be willing to give a donation to a person's favourite charity in their name. That way, even if it's all a hoax the money would still go to a good cause. I would give more direct assistance to someone I know well and have met in person.

  W
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  FlyingHighNow

  Money is not the only way to assist someone.

  This is very true. When our lives fell apart this year, Bebu found a lot of services in my town for me to look into. I especially appreciated her linking me up with Angel Food Ministries. I have found them here in TN and other people I know are using it now, too.

  Never underestimate how much a caring post, PM, card, e-mail, letter or phone call can help someone in distress. And then there is the Tuesday night vigil thread. I believe it really does help those included in the vigil.
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  Finally-Free

  Money is not the only way to assist someone.

  Let's find out if that's true. You send me money. I'll let you know whether or not it helps.

  W
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  Gregor

  I think that when a third party comes here and puts forth a situation about a fellow poster who needs some help they take on a big responsibility to be absolutely sure of their facts. A bogus appeal makes it that much more difficult to get help for the genuine ones

  The Trevor situation was unique in this regard because (correct me if I'm wrong) it could have been exploited financially a lot more that it was. The motivation in this case seems to be just plain crazy.