What do you want us to do if YOU die?

by skeeter1 33 Replies latest jw friends

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  skeeter1

  Given the faked Linda death and a recent, personal friend who died...I think it's appropriate to gather our thoughts on our own death & funeral.

  First, if you have a will please make sure it puts down your final funeral wishes. I think all would roll over in the casket if our family members gave us a JW funeral. I could see them doing this as a last effort to make us right with Jah.

  In my case, I'd like you to plant a tree/plant (even an anti-mosquito plant would do) in your yard. Watch it grow for me. Or, you can donate to a small charity. I like the Turtle Hospital on Marathon Key, Florida.

  As for my funeral, there is a lake to the east of Lake Louise, the trail head is right off Canada North, on the south/eastbound side. The trail follows a strem & leads to a lake high up. There are a few campsites near this lake. The lake is fed by a glacier with a small waterfall to the lake's right side. Horses-for-hire also guide people to this lake. I wish I knew the lake's name, but I hiked there by foot several years ago with my spouse. It takes about 1 or 2 hour hike. Take my ashes & throw them in the lake, or some other nice, isolated lake near there. May the eagle fly over me & the bear poop on me.

  What would you like?

  Skeeter
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  katiekitten

  I want my ashes to be made into a vase and painted in riotous colours, then I can be used to hold flowers.

  Then after a while, as is inevitable, one of the grandkids knocks gramma off the shelf by accident and I smash on the floor, I want all the bits to be made into a mosaic and hung on the wall.

  So I can be beautiful and colourful forever.
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  keyser soze

  A drunken orgy in my honor.
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  wha happened?

  I want to be cremated and have the ashes put into a can of paint. I would then want the ceiling of my bedroom sprayed with that paint so that when my wife remarries she can look up at the ceiling and be reminded of me.
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  IP_SEC

  Dont worry about me.

  Im sure when I dont pay my rent for a few months they will finally break in to my place and find me in my easy chair in front of the TV. They'll call the cops, the coroner will determine alcohol poisoning as the cause of death, and the city will dispose of me Im sure.
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  Crumpet

  I'm immortal! LOL!

  If I die I should like a very large apostafest - possibly a series of them if not everyone can make the pilgrimmage and everyone to drink copious amounts in my memory and I should like an open casket so that everyone can have a good old ogle and then cremated and anyone who wants some to take a teaspoon of my ashes and sprinkle them in their favourite place. I just hope no one with a grudge decides on tipping their apportionment down the khazi! ;-)

  Smells Like Teen Spirit and Come as You Are by Nirvana must be played as well as Mr Brightside by The Killers. Ideally it would be great if you can get some live bands to perform at my funeral (a little like Elton John at Diana's) and of course I should love Stephen Fry to make a speech, and most of the cast of Shaun of the Dead to come and do comedy sketches and possibly if you could round up one or two of my favourite authors to come and read passages of my nobel prize winning novel (yet to be written) and perhaps Anelina to come and weep over my corpse with Brad in tow that would be lovely. And fireworks, lots of fireworks. I think thats about it. I'd also like a large effigy erected close to Jim Morrison's in Paris - you'll probably have to buy out some of his neighbours - and have a digital etch a sketch so people can come and sign their names or do graffiti in an ecologically sound kind of way.

  Of course I've not given the thing much thought at all....
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  Dansk

  No one to wear black.

  Ian
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  Scully

  First, if you have a will please make sure it puts down your final funeral wishes. I think all would roll over in the casket if our family members gave us a JW funeral. I could see them doing this as a last effort to make us right with Jah.

  Skeeter, you make a very good point here.

  I think a lot of exJWs with JW family members, particularly single exJWs whose next of kin are JWs, need to make these wishes known in some way prior to the inevitable, and perhaps even appoint a Power of Attorney and/or have a Living Will in place so that your wishes are honoured, rather than those who would impose their wishes on you as a sort of "last hurrah".

  In some places, the will is not read until after the funeral, so it is important to know how this goes in your jurisdiction. A Living Will, backed up with a Power of Attorney, carries a lot of weight before you die. The Last Will and Testament carries more weight after you die. It makes sense to do both.

  Having said that, when I die, I doubt that the news would reach JWD right away. My immediate family has very little interest in anything to do with exJWs. I'd probably just stop posting all of a sudden. People might not notice for a fair bit of time. By the time anyone from JWD who has my phone number tried to contact me, Mr Scully would likely have had my numbers disconnected, and emails would go unanswered, and the small funeral would be long past. The first clue might even be that those to whom I've sent Christmas cards in past years would not receive one. With my luck I'll probably send out all my Christmas cards at the end of November/beginning of December and then die at the end of December or beginning of January. I'm not saying all this to be macabre or to make anyone feel bad, but feel that this would be a fairly realistic scenario that's likely to play out in my case.

  What would I like the JWD community to do in my memory? Plant a flower and raise a glass. Share a joke or a silly story and don't be sad. Prayers won't be necessary.
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  GermanXJW

  I think you would not notice. My wife does not write on the Internet.
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  Lady Lee

  I've talked about this with my daughters. I wouldn't mind donating my body to a med school. But they would prefer creamation. Since I won't be around to refuse it will be up to them to grieve in their own way and do what is right for them.