I was walking into an Ace Hardware store today. I was about 15 feet from the door when I hear my name called out. I looked toward the parking lot and here was an Elder from my old hall waving and smiling walking toward me. I looked at him and then turned away and walked into the store. I DA'ed myself 3 years ago and have run into a few JW's at the store. The first time I did I was not prepard and ran into a sister I had known for over 20 years. Instinctively I smiled and said hi. She turned up her nose and gave me the most disgusted look and stormed off. I know some will say I should not stoop to their level but it felt DAMN GOOD. They can talk to me when they want to and I should greet them with open arms. I Don't think so...
I shunned a JW today...
by zeroday 15 Replies latest jw friends
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IP_SEC
Whatever works for you man.
Personally I like to walk up to them and start talking to them. They look really stupid to onlookers when they wont talk back and you are being all nice to them.
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JK666
I am glad that you had a liberating experience with your newly acquired freedom, z-day!
I have the freedom to snub any a$$hole I choose to now. I do not care what status they have with the Borg.
JK
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The Oracle
Hey Zeroday,
I understand what you are feeling.
I am not sure what I will do, when and if that ever happens to me, but it is a very un-natural and strange practice.
Good for you - if you enjoyed doing that. Don't feel guilty. You have DA'd yourself - he should not be greeting you in public anyway.
Next time, if you see that elder - why not talk to him and tell him what you know regarding the evil nature of the WT World? If he wants to talk - then let him know what you know.
Just an idea.
Peace out, my friend!!
The Oracle
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lovelylil
I also reverse shun the Witnesses. I see them staring at me many times when I am out in public and when I know they are looking at me, I return the look straight on and then in the most dramatic way turn away so it is obvious I am shunning them. Sometimes for affect, I gasp and put my hands up to my face before turning and high-tailing it out of there...........The way I see it, the organization wronged me, I did nothing wrong except leave a publishing company masquerading as a religion. Why should I give the Witnesses the satisfaction of feeling they are superior to me because they shun me? That is why some of them hold their gaze on me UNTIL I look at them, they are trying to shun me and give themselves satisfaction. But that Is exactly why I reverse shun them first. That way I feel good and they can feel awkward as hell! lilly
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Alwayshere
I don't think so either zeroday. So far I have shunned two elders and one of their wifes. One was the Elder that came to talk to me. The only reason they didn't DF me is because they are very good friends with my Daughter and her Husband and they know what it would do to her if her and my Grandkids couldn't speak and it might be they don't know what I might start because I would have nothing to lose if that ever happens. I don't shun those who I believe are sincere like I was, because you never know, someday they may ask why I quit making meetings.
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worldtraveller
If it's good for the goose..... .
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The Oracle
Good for you lovelylill!!!!
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zeroday
I don't shun those who I believe are sincere like I was, because you never know,
I live in Tennessee and have about 4 cousins still JW's in California they have never shunned me and at family events (mostly deaths lately) we openly talk. They have never asked why I left and I have never volunteered the info. They are sincere. I spoke to one cousin I am very close to and told her I never wanted to endanger her standing and would never talk to her if other JW family were around she told me, " I don't care what they think". When I ran into that "sister" and was shunned the first time it absolutely tore my heart out. I have known her for over 20 years and it hit me for the first time in my life how devestating and inhuman shunning is. I was determined the next time it happened I would be prepared. This elder I ran into today, I have known him for over 25 years. I didn't even have to think of what I would do. As I turned away I was so hoping it ripped his heart out but I doubt it...
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blueviceroy
Does it really help to return the hurt?