My Email Exchange with Trevor Spencer.... (page 4)

fifi40

The man is mentally ill...........in part he admits that himself........probably none of us are qualified to understand that.........he possibly will come back under another guise.....who knows.

But maybe we should as already suggested put it to bed..........otherwise we end up being the bullies who keep picking on the fat ugly kid who has no friends.

OnTheWayOut

I believe him
I don't. I have no reason to, and he's given no compelling reasons why I should even bother to try.

It doesn't matter to me what his excuse is, or if he is telling a truth or a lie now.

He is a sick person who needs help. Sure, some are angry here. Sure, this is not
the forum for his illness. Still, as someone who needs help from others, I only feel
sorry for him. I know I did not have as much invested in feelings for Linda and Trevor.
Still, I would hug him, wish him well, and ask if he is getting the help he needs.
I don't expect others to all feel that way. That's fine.

Many JW's have other issues besides the cult. Remember that the cult draws us in.
People who need attention thought they would get it in the cult.

Thanks for posting this.

El Kabong

I've been staying out of the whole incident, but I just want to say that I really cannot see a connection between what happened on that terrible day in 1989, and making up a wife and friend in order to dupe and fool people on a Ex-JW board in 2007. I think he's only sorry because he got found out.

Zico

I also hope he gets the help he needs, and gets over his issues. It doesn't come across like he wants to seek professional help though, which is a shame.

Sad Emo, I believe Trev claimed to be a Chesterfield fan.

Sunspot

I don't understand the cause-effect connection here which he is inferring exists for his behaviors.
I don't know why he would send the picture he sent to Dansk.
I hope that he realizes that his actions prove that he needs to get some serious help.
I am glad that he was able to apologize, and that mouthy will be reimbursed (to be seen, of course).
I am glad he is committing to leave posters here alone (again, this remains to be seen).

MY thoughts too.

Somehow....I cannot stretch my imagination to include being at a disastrous sporting event in 1989, that would prompt a person to invent a hapless soul with a dying wife and a houseful of guests that knock themselves out to care for a dog and take care of other responsibilites.

Sorry....I don't buy it.

Scully

The only person who sent me money was mouthy, and I've sent her a cheque for more than the amount received - it was a money order which she'd purchased, so there's no other way that I can return it, which she should get Tuesday or Wednesday. Thankyou Jeff for the gentle nature of this your email, something of a change from what I've been receiving, and goodbye. You will always have my respect, even if I do not have yours, which is more than I can say for those who sent threats or called me names like "transvestite", "alcoholic" or "sad" on JWD. warm regards Trevor

Jeff Another thing I should have said, and please share this with JWD, I have no intention of contacting anyone on JWD ever again unless they choose to contact me. Apart from the obviously necessary refund to Grace, and it isn't a rubber cheque btw, I won't be writing to anyone else, or emailing them. I can understand why some would be more than a little afraid of me doing that, but they have nothing to fear. I don't expect forgiveness, and I'm not looking for that, I just don't want anyone to be fearful on my account. I'm deeply sorry Trevor

He could have just returned the money order to Grace. The bank or post office that issued it would have refunded her money without any difficulty whatsoever. I've had this happen myself and there was no problem getting a refund on a money order that I'd purchased myself.

If Trevor hadn't been found out, would he be repaying Grace's money? Somehow I doubt it. At any rate, I will be in contact with Grace personally to ensure that (a) she actually receives this cheque and (b) that it does not go NSF.

Crumpet

Thanks for posting this Jeff - I think I was half wondering if there could still be a chance there was some truth in Linda...so now I know.

diamondblue1974

think I was half wondering if there could still be a chance there was some truth in Linda...so now I know.

I know what you mean - I felt the same.

I think its natural to try and see the best in people even when the worst is staring you back in your face.

G /|\

summer

Thank you much for sharing this...

My Email Exchange with Trevor Spencer....

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