My mom just called

by Elsewhere 31 Replies latest jw friends

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  Elsewhere

  My biological family has been shunning me ever since I DAed back in 1998.

  My mom opened by saying that she's been thinking about me lately and then we chatted a bit to catch up on news. I told her about my toilet training my two cats, my recent nose surgery, my running and how things are going well at work. She told me about how my dad had a medical issue come up in July and how it was treated.

  Normally my biological family will only contact me when someone dies. I can only hope she's getting tired of shunning me.

  I told her not to be shy about calling or dropping by when she's in town. She said she wants to send me some pictures.

  I just hope this is not another attempt at a "family photo" tug at the heart strings. Some time back, shortly after I DAed, my parents showed me some old family videos. It was obviously an attempt to try to get me to feel lonely so I would re-join their religion.

  I'll wait and see what happens. As many times as they have hurt me, I'm always willing to give my biological family the benefit of the doubt.
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  Sunspot

  I am happy for you that she called just to chat and to see how you are doing. It certainly is a good start for better things to come.

  hugs,

  Annie
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  Hortensia

  let's hope she misses you and isn't willing any longer to let the religion keep you apart.
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  restrangled

  ((((elsewhere))))....isn't horrible to even consider that there might be motives to contacting you, other than just missing and loving you?

  It stinks....I hope the latest contact is based on good intentions from your family.

  I can't imagine ever turning away one of my sons, or contacting them with an agenda of sorts.

  Take care.

  r.
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  lisavegas420

  I've been promised pictures..they never came.

  So how many years does it take to figure out the shunning isn't working?

  I hope it's come to an end for you..she's probably just testing you though.

  Was she impressed that her grand-kitties were pottytrained?

  lisa
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  Scully

  I've had pictures and other things promised to me too. I'm still waiting, years later.
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  Crumpet

  Elsewhere - lets take plenty of pics at the New Years Eve party and then you can send them to her so that she feels lonely!
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  sass_my_frass

  Hey bro, it's good that she called, it's hard too though. Who can ever tell what's going through their minds? Who can decide whether it would be better to have them back or to know that you'll never hear from them again?
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  jeanniebeanz

  Elsie, I'm happy for you... but... please do keep your guard up. It's like they are pulled in two directions at once. Religious directive says, "shun" and the natural 'hard wired" directive says, "love your children above all things." It's got to be hell for them as well but no less emotionally frustrating for you.

  Good luck this time. Really...

  Jean
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  Elsewhere

  Was she impressed that her grand-kitties were pottytrained?

  Yup. She said "Wow! That's amazing!"

  Elsewhere - lets take plenty of pics at the New Years Eve party and then you can send them to her so that she feels lonely!

  Ok, but they can't be too naughty!